elisabeth160 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 I feel the need to tell somebody this. I was just browsing the internet and saw those confession sites... When I was about 14-15 yrs old I babysat for a neighbor of mine who was like a mother to me. And I started fooling around with her husband who was in his 40's. He was my first sexual anything. I'd spend the night often and he'd wake up in the middle of the night and come out and we'd fool around while everyone was sleeping. Even now that I'm 22 I still get with men who have wives/girlfriends.
Adunaphel Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 When I was about 14-15 yrs old I babysat for a neighbor of mine who was like a mother to me. And I started fooling around with her husband who was in his 40's. He was my first sexual anything. I'd spend the night often and he'd wake up in the middle of the night and come out and we'd fool around while everyone was sleeping. Do you realize that this man took advantage of you? Even now that I'm 22 I still get with men who have wives/girlfriends. Which is a sure-fire way to screw up your life, get a bad reputation, lessen your chances of meeting a nice guy who would have a serious relationship with you, make people lose their respect for you. Are you aware of this? I think that this disgusting low form of life that fooled around with you when you were 15 damaged you much more and caused you many more problems than you are aware of. Have you ever considered going to some counseling? I think that it could be very useful to you.
whichwayisup Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Even now that I'm 22 I still get with men who have wives/girlfriends. Why? What do YOU get out of it by sleeping with other women's boyfriends/husbands. Don't you feel you deserve a guy who is single and will be only with you? I agree with Ad, what happened to you as a young teen has certainly affected you now...If that experience has messed up your way of thinking, maybe you need to get some counselling.
BUTAFLY Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 This man should be jailed. Its bad enough these men pray on already emotionally broken women but a child is just sick. Elisabeth, being he was your first sexual experience he has set the ground for what you know. This is completely wrong and I recommend telling a professional what happend and get you on the path to being able to build healthy relationships. No need to confess, that implys you've done something wrong. You have done nothing wrong. Bad reputation? for being raped? She has nothing to be ashamed of! Its sick how people are quick to blame the victim.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 BUTAFLY, I don't think any one here is blaming the victim. The jokes are harmless and it does bring a very important point across: if she was willing to do this with this man, what could stop her from doing it with other men? ELISABETH, It was horrible what this man did to you!! I have 3 kids and I cannot imagine the horror I would experience if my H did this to a 14-15 year old girl!!! Do you realize that this man violated a law and that he should be in prison for this kind of behavior? If you don't - then you need to see a therapist. I say this with sincerity and genuine concern for you. Can you imagine what he'd do to the other baby sitters after you left??? Do you realize how sick this man is? He needs help - but he won't get it unless somebody makes him, most likely by a prosecutor. He really, really messed you up. Nobody should have to grow up with an aim to seduce married men. If you haven't yet learned anything from the OW/OM forum, please learn this: It is a lost battle - guaranteed. In the end, you will feel like you've been gutted alive, to put it mildly. Please seek counseling. It will be the best thing that money can buy.
whichwayisup Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 I've gone back and read more of your older posts... Definately seek some therapy, because you're too young to be like this, you have a long life ahead of you and your past IS influencing how you are now.
stillhere Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 I don't think that reporting this man will help. I believe the statute of limitations is 7 years for rape. And because it was so long ago and she is now a legal adult, she's going to have a very hard time proving herself. Sad as it is. Her word against his. She will only put herself through hell by reporting this guy and nothing will ever come of it. I agree, seek professional help. A therapist will steer you in the right direction and help you understand why you continuously set yourself up for failure.
whichwayisup Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 And what won't help is the fact she keeps seeing MM or men who have wives. But, then again, it could prove the point that what that man did to her at 15 has messed her up to make her be like she is now. She has to WANT to change and want help.
BUTAFLY Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 BUTAFLY, I don't think any one here is blaming the victim. The jokes are harmless and it does bring a very important point across: if she was willing to do this with this man, what could stop her from doing it with other men? ELISABETH, It was horrible what this man did to you!! I have 3 kids and I cannot imagine the horror I would experience if my H did this to a 14-15 year old girl!!! Do you realize that this man violated a law and that he should be in prison for this kind of behavior? If you don't - then you need to see a therapist. I say this with sincerity and genuine concern for you. Can you imagine what he'd do to the other baby sitters after you left??? Do you realize how sick this man is? He needs help - but he won't get it unless somebody makes him, most likely by a prosecutor. He really, really messed you up. Nobody should have to grow up with an aim to seduce married men. If you haven't yet learned anything from the OW/OM forum, please learn this: It is a lost battle - guaranteed. In the end, you will feel like you've been gutted alive, to put it mildly. Please seek counseling. It will be the best thing that money can buy. First of all there is nothing cute or harmless about rape. her situation goes much deeper than just aiming for a MM. It is such shallow implying that she is doing this because she enjoys it or its a game. He has seriously damaged her and she needs counseling.
Guest Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Don't waste your life with this destructive cycle. Please make an appt to see someone about this. You may not realize it but what that disgusting piece of slime did to you has really affected you. You will not find real love or happiness continuing on this path. Please seek help.
bunset Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Elisabeth, You are not responsible for what that man did to you years ago and you deserve better! This is not good for you. You deserve someone that can dedicate their time and energy to you and only you! Please get some support from a counselor who can help you understand why you enjoy giving your gifts to unappreciative mates. You are definitely better than that, and someone needs to help you see that.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 i think you're looking for the postsecret website, or maybe the groupghugs one. if not, you should check it out anyway. by the looks of things, you'll like them both.
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