outofdarkness Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 You all just say that cause it didn't work out. It's excuses. It's a survival strategy. My MM left me. I hate him. I am bitter. I will never be able to trust anyone again. I hate life. I hate the fact that I was so fu....g stupid that I wasted 3 years of my life on a man that obviously never really loved me. If he had he would have left his stupid wife in the end. I read these posts and I get no help because to me you all just sound like a bunch of alcoholics who are in denial. If he called again, you would be in it once again and lose. I am the W of an H who had affairs; one main one for 10 years, and I have found just as much advice, insight and encouragment on this thread as in the infidelity thread/forum. Seems to me that if you come in with an open mind, you can get much from these postings. I felt anger and hate that sounds like it was just as strong as your's is now, and I thought that the posters did a great job of telling you things just as they are...The truth hurts, espcially at this time in your healing process. I too, hope that you get to the point where you have enough respect for yourself to know that you are worth much more then your MM can/will give you. It's always a selfish thing on the MM's part. It's not about you, it's about HIM! I am one of the rare W's that was treated respectfully and honorably by the OW..at least the one time that we spoke on the phone two years ago. She has so far respected our wishes that she not contact my H, myself or our children...She has since moved on, is engaged and happy. Good for ALL of us. As far as the other women that he had A's with inbetween the main one, I don't know, but I certainly hope that they found peace and love..Everyone deserves to be happy and feel loved. Loving someone and having it recipricated is one of God's greatest gifts to us. Good luck..I'll be praying for you...Mabey if you keep coming back here with a more open mind, you will find some support and acceptance. Visit the infidelity threads some time..It's interested to see the results of A's on the families that they effect..and I have seen the posters there be supportive of OW's as well...
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