Golden_Touch Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I am in a very complicated situation, been with gf for 6yrs, were due to get married but cancelled it, now I want to end things, she hasnt done anything wrong at all (which I feel guilty about) just not really happy in a relationship i know will go nowhere. Trouble is we have a house, mortage, joint accounts, all of our stuff tvs etc was bought jointly, we also have pets! so how do i end things with all these joint ventures? dont want to hurt her more than is necessary cos i still care about her. any advice on to how to make this situation workout ?
swirly27 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Golden, are u SURE this is really over or are you guys just in a comfortable rut? Alot of times when things get boring, old, comfortable and not the fluttery feelings anymore, people think there's no hope. But, are you really sure you want to end things without giving it everything you have - and are u sure if you end everything and break that you won't regret it???
Golden Touch Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Golden, are u SURE this is really over or are you guys just in a comfortable rut? Alot of times when things get boring, old, comfortable and not the fluttery feelings anymore, people think there's no hope. But, are you really sure you want to end things without giving it everything you have - and are u sure if you end everything and break that you won't regret it??? I have tried to put all my effort in recently but nothing is there for me, although I know she feels completely differently. I feel horrible for feeling like this but I have just fallen out of love with her even though she hasnt done anything wrong, think my life perspective has just changed the main reason I think i may regret it is that I may never find anyone else, but I dont think thats a fair reason to stay with her
db75 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 If you're really certain that you want to get out of this relationship, before speaking to your significant other I would strongly encourage you to get some legal advise given that you have serveral joint assets. You need to know what you might be up against if you decide to go.
Green Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Yeah go see a lawyer, just give her the pet if she wants it. You guys could just agree to sell the house and split the profits but still go See a lawyer.
Josalina Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 this is true, legal advise is a must. i am confused, so tell me you want to split up because u have fallen out of love? r u sure? is that actually possible when she has done nothing wrong? r u sure its your relationship that has to go down the pan and not anything else? sometimes when u get into the same old routine it become boring, even dull, i know u have said u have tried, but what have u tried if u don't mind me asking? as if it is just putting up with it that won't help anyone, take the legal route, when that is sorted my advise is to talk, tell her how you feel, you may be able to work it out together, after all a relationship is a two way thing. take care.
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