sapphire0903 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 What are the chances of reconciling a marriage when they have been separated for close to 3 years? Does anyone know of couples who have surived betrayal and made it work? The man I have been dating for 2 years, recently we broke it off as he was seeing his wife and me. He FINALLY seen it really was not fair to all parties involved. I won't contact him, as much as I miss him. I am trying to get over him, but I cant help but wonder? Thoughts everyone?
FrogWart Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 OOF! Do they have children? If so, there's a forever bond there so he may be thinking it's the right thing to do and the added bonus is that he is attracted to her as a person again so it's a win-win. I know two people that were divorced over 20 years, had grown children from their second marriages and are now together again - Needless to say, Christmas gift giving is REAL confusing over there! :-) But I'm kidding so let me be serious. You do the right thing and grant him the time to figure it out. It sounds cliche' but if you really love him, you want what's best for him. I'm not saying that she is what's best for him - only he knows that. Hang in there kiddo, all thing happen for a reason. Maybe he'll spend time with her only to be reminded of why he left to begin with and come back to you. If he dosen't, he would've left at some point anyway so you're better off looking for what might be better for YOU in terms of Mr. Right. Hope this helps, FROGWART PS - Hey I'm available! Don't let the name fool ya!
Author sapphire0903 Posted September 15, 2006 Author Posted September 15, 2006 Hey FrogWart, Yes, he has two grown children in college. He has always been very close to his family, and I know the pull of his children was very hard on him, but his wife never let him go. I do love him, and I do want what is best for him, I will not try to make things difficult for him. His wife knows about me so I know that has to be difficult for her. I too believe things happen for a reason,.....it is just hard ya know? Your post did help me, more importantly, your post made me smile..........Thank you!
justice Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 My sister and her H were separated for five years. They got back together and that was almost ten years ago now. And yes, he cheated. By you not contacting him, you are doing the right and respectful thing and I admire you for your strength. Keep on going the way you are now and you'll meet someone who will be able to love you the way you think you love the unattainable MM. My hat's off to you.
Jelly Bean Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 if you are looking for opinions, mine is this, if the person left and went back, then the love you had is not strong enough. You must move on...
lover's rock Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 I know of an old married couple who've been married for over 50 years. At some point he left her and moved in with his other woman, had three children by her but then moved back in with his wife...after all of that. They never got divorced or anything and they're still together. That's superwierd to me but I guess it happens.
TattooedPrincess Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Yesterday I would have said I would be surprised that they will stay together but that was my personal opinion and that doesn't count. Something started to knock inside my mind and I had just remembered about a couple on my street who had separated for a little over 5 years and this was during the children was still in high school. After the children got married and brought forth grand children I seen this couple get back together after 5 + years of separation. As of today they are still together and it has been over 10 years now. So I guess it is quite possible.
outofdarkness Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 What are the chances of reconciling a marriage when they have been separated for close to 3 years? Does anyone know of couples who have surived betrayal and made it work? The man I have been dating for 2 years, recently we broke it off as he was seeing his wife and me. He FINALLY seen it really was not fair to all parties involved. I won't contact him, as much as I miss him. I am trying to get over him, but I cant help but wonder? Thoughts everyone? It depends entirely on the circumstances..in my opinion...How long had they been married before the separation? Are there any children involved? Did he make YOU any promises? My husband had a 10 year affair...We are still together after 2 separations and MC and Indiv. C...Much of this...Infidelity is really a betrayal that takes much forgiveness and support...Both parties have to be willing and able... Do yourself a favour and keep on doing the same...don'd contact him unless he initiates it...and even then, I personally would not speak to him ...He is playing with your feelings and those of his W...and he is legally bound to his W...Good luck Is it ok for a married coworker to ask a single, attractive subordinate to dinner and drinks? Only to do business of course! Is this appropriate, does it cross the line, and what would happen if anyone with authority over both..were to find out about it? Need advice right away...Think I may have made a huge mistake... In my industry, business is done over dinner and drinks all the time. If you're questioning the propriety of it, though, it sounds like there's something amiss and this isn't business as usual. Certainly don't do it again, and you may want to discuss this with your manager - tell him/her that you weren't sure of what the code of business conduct is at your office, and that you don't want to repeat it if this is a probelm in your company. thanks for the advice...Not planning to see this person again under those circumstances
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