Guest Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Ok so i got into an argument with my bf. Why? Well first, last week (Friday) we had a fight and he didnt wanna see me for a while b/c he was mad that i didnt tell him that a friend of mine left a msg on my hi5 saying "you're the best girl around! i love u school nerd!"...the school nerd is just an inside joke we used to have between us. and then i did a favour for him (i gave him my class notes from last year, im in uni now and hes still in high school) and he left a msg saing "i love you!! thanks so much! i owe u!". and my bf saw this and got really mad saying "awwww ur convo with him is soo cute! thanks for telling me". meanwhile he said he was mad becuz i would be mad/jealous at him if it was the other way around...like id be a little jealous but i would definately not be mad, id joke about it (and not sarcastically)....see, last year i was really jealous/uptight about my bf and his girl friends and id be upset everytime one of them was really sweet to him and he was sweet back, but im over it now, and im COMPLETELY changed cuz i realize that that behaviour is stupid. so anyways, he says that hes mad cuz i didnt tell him especially cuz my friend said he loved me (tho my bf knows it was in a joking manner). so i apologized and everything and he remained upset for a couple of days. ok the problem now: a couple days a go, a coworker (that i used to work with but has now moved to a diff city to attend university) emailed a bunch of his work friends (me and including 5 others) making up a cheesy game where we had to respond to him in french. so i reply to him that i m not good in french and we talk about how our classes are going and what our schedules are like. and he tells me to respond in spanish(because i told him im taking a spanish class). so i respond to him completely in spanish. and its nothing flirty AT ALL. just saying congrats on a race he won, that his classes seem hard, and how his job is going in the new city. so yesterday i told my bf (because since the last thing happened, ive been waiting for a good and appropriate time to tell him about this coworker's emails) about it and he was really mad. he was mad because i didnt tell him as soon as it happened., he said i could have emailed him to tell him about the coworkers emails. so i apologize and feel bad and everything. and i told him i feel that he's mad that i communicate with my ex-coworkers (the ones who have moved to diff cities for university) and he said he wouldnt be mad at all. (but i seriuosly doubt that, cuz i have yet to see that hes ok when i am nice to my coworkers). so this morning, i talk to him on the comp and he asks to see the emails that the co worker sent to me. but, as soon as i came home yesterday and after the little argument, i deleted the emails as well as other emails that werent important (im keeping my work mailbox for important stuff not personal emails like that) plus i was kind of scared he would get more mad if he saw that i was nice to the coworker. and my bf said to me "it didnt cross thru ur mind that i might want to see the emails?"and i said to him "actually it didnt". because honestly they werent even that important, they were such short emails about nothing, just small talk and being nice, so i didnt see the importance of it plus i had told him absolutely EVERYTHING that was said in the emails between me and the coworker. and now he says he doenst even wanna see me tonight because he says hes starting not to trust me more and more. so i phone him because id like to sort things out but he says everything i say makes him more upset. (i told him i deleted the emails RIGHT after receiving them and hes mad too becuz he says he cant trust me becuz i was inconsiderate to delete them before even letting him know that there was a convo between the coworker and i. >> though i deleted them right after i came home yesterday and we had the argument) and he kept interrupting me while i was trying to make things better and while i was talking on the phone so i got fed up (which i never do, im always calm and nice to him and hes always yelling and swearing and calling me a bitch) and said "interrupt me...interrupt me again" but i didnt mean for it to sound as if i was threatening him and he hung up on me and i havent spoken to him since. i just dont know how to work things out with him because he gets mad so easily it seems. and he says he cant trust me. and the funny thing is i let him know about EVERYTHING...he knows all of my passwords for my emails, my MSN, my hi5, myspace, and even my work email...and he cant trust me? i trust him with everything, i dont even know his passwords to his emails/web community accounts! how do i make things better? he never communicates and tells me what he wants exactly he expects me to know right away....i told him that we need ot communicate to each other and let each other know exactly whats bothering us and what we expect the other to do to make things better....but he never wants to. he says if i care i should know exactly whats wrong and exactly what i need to do. and is he even correct in his reasoning for not wanting to see me or trust me? like he doesnt even believe me that i tried so hard to tell him about the emaisl at the correct time, seeing what happened last week when i didnt tell him about the msgs my guy friend left me on my hi5.
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