Should i contact her?

[turtle32]

Ok i dated this girl for 8 months and i liked her alot but never showed her i pushed her away cause i was having issues with wondering if i could be married again since i am a christian some people had told me i couldnt and not be living in adultery but i have prayed about it and am ok with that. But back to the story she was crazy about me and gave it her all to be with me but i was stupid and just pushed her away never mean we never had one fight or cross word but anyway she told her friend that i hurt her by not making her feel special and she had shutdown what ever that means but she told my sister that she was afraid i would hurt her again but she told me that she didnt want anything right now tat she had alot going on and was real busy she said it wasnt that she didnt like me but that we never had time for each other i ask her if i was suppose to wait or forget it and she said it wouldnt be fair to say wait and she didnt expect me to . Also last friday night at the high school football game her county came to pay mine i was on the opposite sideline and some of my buddies went to the PA annoucer and told them to wish me a happy birthday and tell the ladies i was single she told a reind that hurt her so i hear all this stuff sound slike she still cares> So i ahdnt talk to her in 5 days and some women told me to take her some flowers with a letter and let er know how i feel and care for her so i did i took them and put them on her door step yesterday while she was at work so i waited and at 10:00 lastnight i get a text message and here it is word for word, thanks for the flowers they was a beautiful surprise and the time we spent together meant alot to me i hope we can always be friends. that is it and the letter i sent i poured my heart out to her and not a call but anyway here is what i need help with do i leave her alone and have no contact? or do i wait a few days or weeks and then text her email her or call? or do i need to ask her if she thinks there is ever a chnace we can get back together later or do i try and communicate with her that i do care i just need to know what she migt be thinking does she not have feelings for me anymore and will forget me in a aweek or how is the best to win her back. Please help me i need anwsers. Thanks

[superconductor]

i hope we can always be friends

That's the kiss of death.

 

It's over. Don't call her.

 

*edited to add*

 

some women told me to take her some flowers with a letter and let er know how i feel and care for her so i did

Here's a quick hint: Taking advice from a woman about this sort of thing is a bad, bad idea, but obviously by the result you have already learned that. Spilling your guts to her put you in a position akin to begging.

 

A man never, ever begs. Never.

 

That's reason #1989 why men should just keep their mouth shut.

[Adunaphel]

Superconductor is right, the text message she sent you basically means that it's over.

 

Perhaps you could try to talk to hear anyway - getting a "it's over" from her mouth might help you move on faster.

Unfortunately, people are rarely that blunt, and you might get some vague answer that means "it's over" to her but sounds like "there is still a chance" to you, which would mess up your feelings even more.

 

So I second Superconductor's other piece of advice: don't call.

 

Taking her flowers and a letter was a good idea, though - given your specific situation. It was a quick way to find out whether she is willing to give you a second chance.

[shawn_68]

thanks for the flowers they was a beautiful surprise and the time we spent together meant alot to me i hope we can always be friends.

 

Yep, sorry, it's over. My advice is to not get in contact in any way. Nothing. Drop off the face of the earth.

 

This is a lesson that a lot of us had to learn the hard way. Take advice from people that have been there.

[Rooster_DAR]

I agree as well, sorry dude. Been there, done that.