confused6925 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 so here's my story: from 4th grade all the way until my senior year i was madly in love with this boy. we dated in 8th and 9th and then stopped talking due to him starting to hang out with older classmen (he became too cool!) as soon as we graduated, i didn't see him anymore, which was a good thing, cuz i learned to get over him and mend my broken heart. as soon as i graduated i met a great guy and started to date him. everything was going well until a few years of us dating and him getting involved in drugs. he was lying to me all the time and go behind my back and getting f-up all the time. he has been on and off the drugs for about a year now, and right now is off them, at least i think. it has hurt our relationship a lot, but we r trying to work on it due to the history of our relationship, and the fact that we're engaged! Anyways, my friend ran into this boy last summer, and right away he started asking about me. he told her he has never gotten over me and that he loves me, and all this good stuff. a week later i ran into him and we ended up hanging out the whole night. i tried to keep communication going last summer, but it didn't happen. from that point on, i've had him on my mind. this past weekend we ran into one another at a wedding and again he told my friends he was madly in love w/me (he knows i'm engaged, and my fiance wasn't at the wedding). we ended up talking again, dancing, and having a good time. knowing that he confessed his love for me to my friends again, at the end of the night, i texted him i love him. he texted back i love u 2. and then i texted him i've loved u for 12 years. he told me no more drinks. the next morn. i texted him i'm sorry for being annoying last night and he told me i was fine and that we should hang out again. so through text messaging we made plans to get together 4 dinner and drinks. he said he would call me. he never did. i tried to text him and he hasn't responded to that either. i don't know what i should do now. i still have a lot of feelings 4 this guy and want it out in the open, whether something happens or doesn't. should i text him again? what should i say if i do? i don't want to ignore it, cuz last summer i did that, and it ran through my head like crazy until i bumped into him again. why won't he get back to me? if he's so madly in love with me, then why wouldn't he call?
Lisa32 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 There's so much history with you two, I can't imagine him just blowing you off. There's definitely more to this. Keep in mind too...you are engaged, and Lord knows if he's been talking to his friends and family, and they're saying...she's engaged, just stay away and save yourself a headache. I would normally never suggest contacting an individual when they are pulling away, but in this case, I really think you need to. I'd call him (not text...you are adults afterall) and straight out say that you feel that the two of you should really get together and talk and would he please at least call you back. Also, you are not in love with your fiance. I don't doubt that you love and care for him, but you're not IN love. Whether it works out with this other guy or not...you need to be honest with yourself and end it with your fiance, no matter how hard it is, or how much it hurts. You'll be happy you did in the long run. 10 years down the road, you might end up being miserable if marry your fiance. If you can see forever with him without even one ounce of hesitation, then marry him. If you even hesitate for a milla-sec...then get out now. The fact that you're even looking at your highschool flame, tells me you've already hesitated with the fiance.
Recommended Posts