lindya Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 "Objective, baggage-free thinking" == "insecure," in this case? Objective thinking probably does lead to insecurity. If we could see ourselves as others see us, etc.... Word of warning ladies........ those knights in shining armor usually turn out to be a loser in aluminum foil. Be especially wary if the foil is mainly situated around his head.
Adunaphel Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Actually, I have known this happen in reverse. I have known women who kept their men fat, so that they wouldn't stray. They havent strayed yet, so it must work! This reminds me of when my ex-bf hinted to the fact that I secretly didn't want him to lose weigh because I was worried that other girls woulf find him attractive.
a4a Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Be especially wary if the foil is mainly situated around his head. Yes but that keeps his thoughts from being read by citizens of the planet Zeltron. Seriously if you have a habitual 'KISA' there is probably something wrong with that man why would he seek out such weakness in mates? I would say one should also fear men who bicycle too much.... it is not natural for a man to do so...... :lmao: all that nut squshing on the bike seat.
Spinderella Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 This reminds me of when my ex-bf hinted to the fact that I secretly didn't want him to lose weigh because I was worried that other girls woulf find him attractive. I hope you said "but you would still be bald/ugly/dim"
a4a Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I hope you said "but you would still be bald/ugly/dim" :lmao: :lmao: but you missed the "still have a small penis" comment with this. :lmao:
Adunaphel Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I hope you said "but you would still be bald/ugly/dim" I would say it now, but at the time I was in love with him. ...sometimes it really feels good to be single a4a...
Spinderella Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 :lmao: :lmao: but you missed the "still have a small penis" comment with this. :lmao: :lmao: So I did!
a4a Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I would say it now, but at the time I was in love with him. ...sometimes it really feels good to be single a4a... So did you lose weight then leave him? Or did you just buy new shoes? :lmao:
Spinderella Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I would say it now, but at the time I was in love with him. All the more reason to keep him from straying
Spinderella Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 So did you lose weight then leave him? Or did you just buy new shoes? :lmao: :lmao:
burning 4 revenge Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 No we don't. I lost 30 pounds and I am no desire to be with anyone esle ever. He loved me when I was a little fatty so why should I leave him now just because I am skinny? G*** lost forty pounds and the amount of caories she was missing from pizza and hot dogs she seemed to make up for by imbibing other men's ejaculate
blind_otter Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 My sister recently lost a bunch a weight. While she jokes that a fat bald man ate her husband, she's still with him. They're catholic. They have no other option. Woggle, keep posting. You remind me that people can be full of serious emotional baggage and they can still somehow feep functioning, even without therapeutic intervention. You give me hope. hahaha.
a4a Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 My sister recently lost a bunch a weight. While she jokes that a fat bald man ate her husband, she's still with him. They're catholic. They have no other option. Woggle, keep posting. You remind me that people can be full of serious emotional baggage and they can still somehow feep functioning, even without therapeutic intervention. You give me hope. hahaha. arsenic is an option..... then she could just confess to it and be free and clear right?
rainfall Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 G*** lost forty pounds and the amount of caories she was missing from pizza and hot dogs she seemed to make up for by imbibing other men's ejaculate Well excuse me but when you are only 4 feet 11 then 30-40 pounds is alot. Ok thanks have a nice day. :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
a4a Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 and then the Lollipop Guild took to protesting in the streets.............. News at 11.
fishtaco Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Well, I think woggle was talking about insecure women + losing weight. Some posters here lost weight and still stayed with their husbands because -- they're not insecure. Good for them. And congratulations on the weight loss. I do think it's stretching a bit to link just weight loss and divorce, it has to be weight loss + other warning signs, but if a person is constantly watching his wife for signs that she might leave... he might as well just divorce her now and get it over with... what a crappy relationship that would be. But knight in shining armor is bad idea because you'll get women that are in trouble. If you're lucky, you'll get a woman that's in trouble because of bad luck, and isn't a regular occurance. But most of the time, you'll get a woman that's always in trouble because of personality flaws (low self esteem, dumb as a rock, drama queen, dependency issues, what have you). When you hook up with someone, that person's problems become yours. So it makes sense to find someone that doesn't have a lot of problems or at least one that knows how to take care of her own problems, unless you get a kick out of spinning your time rescueing her all the time.
Adunaphel Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 So did you lose weight then leave him? Or did you just buy new shoes? :lmao: Well, I have to confess, I bought this lovely pair of crystal slippers. Perfect bait to lure Prince Charming dudes in. they tend to have more money than Knights in Shiny Armor guys. All the more reason to keep him from straying More like an excuse. But knight in shining armor is bad idea because you'll get women that are in trouble. If you're lucky, you'll get a woman that's in trouble because of bad luck, and isn't a regular occurance. But most of the time, you'll get a woman that's always in trouble because of personality flaws (low self esteem, dumb as a rock, drama queen, dependency issues, what have you). It makes sense. Thinking about it, which woman in her right mind would risk spending her married life polishing her knight's armor to make it shiny? Unless he is a rare specimen of do-it-yourself guy. In which case he'd be a keeper.
serial muse Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 i thought it was the cutting of the hair that one had to watch out for. my exH took up karate and probably dropped 10-15 pounds in the year he was cheating. so this little truism applies to both genders. by the by. oh well, at least i got to enjoy the more muscular version of him for a bit.
Steph21 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 It seems guys who want to play the knight in shining armor thing are attracted to me. I think one guy even caused me to get a little depressed because I noticed when I acted happy/secure he ignored me and that made me think there was something wrong with me and then I got sad and he liked me again. I'm beginning to think there's no such thing as true love and it's better just to settle for someone boring who won't hurt you.
magichands Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 I'm beginning to think there's no such thing as true love and it's better just to settle for someone boring who won't hurt you. Beginning to...thank God! There is still time to retrace your steps, Steph. To get a "statistically significant" sample, you would have to date at least the entire male LS population. Well, the ones that are aren't in a relationship, anyway. (!) Who am I kidding - is that representative?! Haha. If they're wondering why you are keeping them around, it sure sounds like insecurity. And if you really felt like addressing this - as opposed to moving on, or learning to enjoy being a needy screw-up - then the odd bit of reassurance might do the trick. It's called true love because you are sure about it. As sure as you can be about anything in this life. And one more thing..."boring" and "won't hurt you" don't always come as a set.
Timberlane Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Woggle, keep posting. You remind me that people can be full of serious emotional baggage and they can still somehow feep functioning, even without therapeutic intervention. You give me hope. hahaha. That's actually a pretty nice compliment. You are obviously a cool person, Otter.
Hitman10000 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Men have a tendency to want to be the hero and the rescuer. It is in our nature so when we see a woman in distress we are drawn to them. We love to help out a woman with low self esteem or who is in trouble but it tends to backfire on us. These women never develop a sense of self and are always insecure. If you marry one of them one day they might start losing weight and they will leave you to go find themselves and see if they can live in their own. They are always on a quest to find themselves and they are always finding the new them. It is much better to find a woman with her head together when you meet so she has something that she can contribute to building a foundation as well. Hmm, with how media/porn/others objectify women to be some sort of person , many women are rightfully insecure. Especially if they have to entrust their body to some invading object entering their body as well as determining if their potential boyfriend/husband is going to be an ******* or a Good Guy. If you want to know how it's like to be a woman, go to the gay part of town..hang around there. See if you like it when you got a bunch of gay dudes staring at you, wanting to touch your body and come on to you. Give women credit, seriously. The only thing I want changed about women in western society is for them the ability to cook. I cook, so should they.. the last girl I dated told me she knows how to fry eggs or make cheese and macaroni. Please try not to see women or make them into becoming more masculine because those traits you described are masculine traits: Order, Stability, Strength.
Steph21 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 And one more thing..."boring" and "won't hurt you" don't always come as a set. I think I just mean that a guy who I find "boring" would definitely never hurt me because if he left or whatever I wouldn't care.
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