I need to talk to others going through this I broke up with my boyfriend

[someone77]

As many of these posts seem to start, I'm new here. I broke up with my boyfriend of three years about a month ago. We lived together for the past two years. It's for the best for both of us. But it is so weird to go from talking to someone and spending every day with someone to completely not talking to them at all. I feel like there's a big empty pit in my stomach. I can't stop crying. I was doing alright for the first month (of course it took him three weeks to move out of my house, but that's another story). Now this week I'm back to square one. What have others done to get through this?

 

This is so hard because he never gave me a reason about me. He got in a fight with my brothers and so he said he couldn't marry me because they didn't respect him. Since he couldn't marry me, he had to break up with me. Whatever, it hurts more than anything I've ever gone through.

 

So I am glad I found a place where I might be able to share the experience with others going through the same.

[Guest]

This is my first time on this thing, but I am a guy. Am I gay for being on here? lol Just kidding! When I am sad, I try to joke around and laugh as much as possible. I think it is from the way I was raised and my family wasnt a very loving family. They were great to me, but not very loving. Anyway, enough about me, but I am going thru some stuff right now myself. I divorced a couple of years ago, had a girlfriend for 3 months after about 4 months after divorce, and she ended up cheating on me and my current girlfriend (ex-girlfriend) use to be a stripper. There is alot with her past and I probably need to quit talking about it and open up a new post somewhere to get others opinions on my situation. Ok, enough about me! lol

 

Before I got divorced, I found out that my wife had emotionally been cheating on me with a guy from work. This was the 3rd time that it happened and was very hard to deal with. Its a very long story, but in the end she ended up sleeping with him and was dating him after we divorced and they broke up a couple of months ago and she found out that he wasnt the same guy that she had thought he was. She ended up regreting it, but I told her it was too late. (It wasnt said excatly like that, but that was the main point). Anyway, the quickest way I got over her was to start dating. After I had gone out on a couple of dates, my ex-wifes name was what?? lol I always try to look at the positive things, and that was a positive in having the chance to meet more people. I dated about 4 or 5 girls before I had found one I liked and thought she would of been faithful. Wrong!! So even out of the girls that I did date, I still keep in contact with a couple of them and when i wasnt dating anyone, I would go meet one of them and go out to lunch during work and just shoot the ****. It was nice to have new friends.

 

In your situation, if he said he doesnt want to get married because someone in the family doesnt like him or vise-versa, then I feel there has to be more behind it. I cannot believe that he would end everything because of that. I think he is either getting cold feet, or he isnt happy and just not telling you. If he isnt happy, then you need to find out why. If he really doesnt know, then your better off without him, cause it would probably just end up in a messy divorce anyway. Word of advise!! Whatever you do, make double damn sure that if you marry someone, that you will be with him forever. I think that is the point I am at right now, because of her past I am having a really hard time trusting my girlfriend. I know deep down that I need to end it, but its hard because I do love her. But I know it would not be a good relationship and eventually I will find the one. If you think this guy was the one, why would he end it so sudden because of something so small. Maybe he wants a fairy tale with no problems in his life and if thats the case then he will never be happy with anyone.

 

Sorry for talking about my own relationship -vs- giving you advise, but I am having a hard time right now too and just needed to write some stuff and bitch about it a little. lol

 

It takes two to be happy and jsut make sure that your not trying harder than he is to make it work. If he is not even trying, then you need to move on. I dont know if you get out much, but if you dont, you need to. Hit some bars, go out with some friends and live it up. When your with someone and you break up, I think most people think they will never find someone or find someone better than who they were with. That is totally wrong and there are alot of good guys out there (me included, lol), as I know there are alot of great women out there that are single. I think I read somewhere, that most of the population of adults are single and are not married. Also do not rush into marrage and take your time. There is nothing glorius about it. Yes at first, but that wears off and marriage becomes a routine after you have kids. Kids are great, but they limit you on what you can do together as a couple.

 

Hope that helped, and maybe you can give me some advise on how women think??? (cuz I havent a clue, lol)