rosalia Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Hello, everyone! I am curious as to how you split your custody 50/50. My lawyer is drawing up the separation papers and my husband & I have agreed on 50/50...just need to hear various methods...thanks in advance.
calalily Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 When I was a legal secretary, we had one joint custody arrangement that I thought worked really well. Parents swapped the child over on Wednesdays - parent 1 dropped the kid off at school in the morning, parent 2 picked them up. This means that you both get weekends with the child. Christmases were alternated with families, or spent jointly (cause if you can be civil enough to work out joint custody, you can spend Xmas together).
agnf666 Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I think what they do is Joint Custody. Where you get the kids a few days out of the week, and he gets the kids the other days of the week. You share like every other holiday or something like that. You would need to ask a lawyer about all of that stuff.
littlekitty Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Usually each state would have it's own recommendations as to what the split would be. You can do one week on, one week off, split mid week (as suggested above) or various other routines. It depends on what is the best fit not only for you, but also for the child. I'd advise googling child custody recommendations for your state.
ddw5195 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I am not sure personaly but have had a cousin that is married to her husband so the 50/50. they live very close to one another, where when they are with the father they go to the same school as when the mother has them. they do it he gets them one week and then she gets them one week. they have no bags to pack because all of thier needs are meet in both homes. lie they have their own clothes at his house and same as hers. they have thier own rooms etc. if they want to bring something that they like, like a favorite outfit or something it is left up to them. to me, that would seem that is not so good cause they are on a constant move but really works out for them very good!!! they are both girls and seem to have no issues and are very happy the way things are. if you really look at it, they have the best of 2 worlds. double of everything.
Touche Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 My ex-husband split custody mid-week with his ex. And my husband and his ex did the every other week thing.
Author rosalia Posted September 16, 2006 Author Posted September 16, 2006 Thank you, everyone! My husband and I are thinking of one week on, one week off. Of course, it will depend on my new work schedule, as I will likely be rotating shifts. But that will work out nicely, nevertheless. How about money? Do you split the money 50/50? For example, no child support, just pay, for example, the daycare and insurance 50%?
Touche Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 No, we had to pay child support even though we had my stepson 50% of the time. We still had to pay for half of everything on top of the child support (clothes, etc.) It was always a bone of contention with me BUT it's the law where I live. Had the ex had a higher income, she would have had to pay us I guess. It's based on the parents' income. As for my ex. He didn't have to pay child support but the agreement was that he would put away for and fund all of the child's college tuition and expenses.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Their dad has them Mon and Tues night, I have them Wed and Thurs night every week. We then alternate the weekends (Fri-Sat-Sun nights). So it works out 2 days each, then 5 days each. This way I have every Mon and Tues night free to do my stuff and vice versa, and the kids are in a routine. We switch occasionally if there are weekend events I need to attend and vice versa, and we're both flexible. We track "kid expenses" and every few months show each other the list and it usually is pretty even. We have nothing in writing, and it's worked for almost 2 years now. When we file for divorce (soon) nothing will change. There is no child support as we earn the same income.
Author rosalia Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Thanks, everyone! I have one more question...we currently live in the same town, but let's say that one of us moves and we still want to split 50/50...has anyone ever done 1 year on, 1 year off? Thanks.
calalily Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Usually there is some sort of condition put in that the parents can't move away without consent and a new order, and you usually have to show cause (but I am Aussie, so it might be different). I think one year on, one off would be a bad idea.
littlekitty Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A year on/off seems too long to me...
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