Stamford Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 hey all, I'm new to this forum and as you can see from the title of my thread I am in need for some honest but not harsh advise. My girlfriend and I have broken up and I really don't know how to deal with it as I alwasy knew that she was the one for me. A lot has happened in out 3y7m relationship. There for there is no trust between us anymore. We have broken up a couple of times in the past year but never as this time. This time around she told me that she doesn't love me anymore and doesn't care anymore even she told me 2 weeks ago that she still loves me. She never said this before. My whole world is exploded and I have the feeling that I really don't want to go on anymore, please give me some decend advise and bare in mind I am still very much in love with her. Thank you
swirly27 Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Stamford - Can you give us a little more info on your relationship? How old are you guys, was it her choice to end the relationship or was it mutual? Why did things end? Are you guys still in contact at all or friends? What I can tell you right now though is no matter how bad it seems RIGHT NOW, you WILL be ok and things will get better, it is just going to take time and unfortunately some sadnedd and pain. But, you can use this time to make yourself happy and take care of yourself right now. I am sorry that you are going thru this though, heartbreaks don't break us, but they sure as hell feel like they do.
Miss1984 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 I'm so sorry to hear this. Perhaps you could give a little more info: you say you've broken up before, what were the reasons for this and who instigated those breakups? And why is there no trust between the two of you anymore? Your ex said she doesn't care or love you anymore, but don't dwell on this. I fail to believe that people just stop caring all of a sudden, she probably just said it in the heat of the moment to push you away, or to convince herself she didn't care so as to lessen the burden on herself. Maybe you should leave things to cool off for a few days and try to have a chat with her when you're both calmer and have had time to think. She may be able to give you more insight into why she ended things which will make it easier for you. You must feel so bad now, but you won't feel like this forever. I hope you feel better soon.
Miss1984 Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Lee, I added you to my MSN in case you ever need someone to talk to. I hope you don't mind- and don't feel you have to.
Josalina Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 i am sorry to hear what u r going through, i have the same problem i had been with my ex just over 2 and a half years and longer your with someone the harder the break up, well you have come to the right place, my ex and i split just under 2 weeks ago and these guy on here have really helped me. i still love him and although yesterday i could of gone insane i feel positive today, u get up and down days. could u give more info as that would help us understand more? i really feel for you but keep ya chin up, u never know there may b a underlying problem with her, noone can just swich their feelings on and off that quick, unless they dont know what they really feel, is she going through a lot of stress at the moment and my ex is going through a quarter life crisis, if she is in her 20's early 30's this could be poss for why she feels like she does, if you could tell us more it would help us to analyse the possible problems and help us to help you. it is hard, i wont lie but everything is done for a reason. take care
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