Ezydriver Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I want to quote the alchemyst from another thread. a lot of people are fixated on the idea that "you will never love again." This is simply just not true! Of course you will, and of course someone will love you, just as much or even way more, too. I think a more accurate thing to say would be, "I will never love anyone like I loved him/her." This is not to say that you loved them oh-so-much that you'll never love anyone just as much, but that you'll simply not love in the same way And you won't. I'm sure it's different in and with each relationship. This is tragic though. If you cant love in the same way then this is what is meant by 'I'll never love again'. I remember the way I loved my ex. I truly think I'l never love like that again. Once you've had the cream why go for the milk. Some love makes other love seem mundane. Mix the way you loved with the sexual passion and other exciting factors and it does seem completely reasonable to expect to never feel like that again. Some love is an amazing high. I just wanted to start a thread on the nature of this oh so common statement.
KittenMoon Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Every person is a unique experience. There will probably be idiosyncratic things you miss about any person, even those that treated you like sh*t. I'm sorta fixated right now on the fact that I may never meet another grown man who was a cute as my ex was when picking out a halloween pumpkin. However, that's not really going to make up for other things. I'll still miss it though. I suppose we all have to take it on faith there can be more than one "great love" in life.
D-Lish Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 It's quite possible to have many loves in your life, I don't believe in the term soul mate.... One thing I know for sure is that in order to love again, it's imperative to let go of your past loves. It's easy to become jaded after a failed relationship- but being jaded just makes you closed off to the opportunity of finding love again.
Miss1984 Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Since my first love I've never felt the same about anyone else or been in love since. I think this has also to do with the fact that I never really let go of him- even though I've seen other people, but I am getting past that now. And my relationship with him WAS flawed, otherwise it wouldn't have ended, one day I hope to find something just as great as what we had, but GREATER because it won't have those same flaws and it'll just 'work'- you know? It won't feel 'the same' because it will be with a different person and in a different time etc etc, but it could feel just as good. Maybe it feels like you won't love again, but then you meet someone and you realise you can- which makes it feel even more amazing? I think it's true what they say, that you'll find love when you least expect it and if you stop looking it will find you.... This is what I'm hoping anyway! I live in hope...
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