Guest Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Sounds like you did a good job of keeping yourself occupied; better than I would have done at this stage. I'll keep repeating it till I'm blue in the face to you; they have both shown total disrespect for you and your brother, not just once but several times. They are not worth one of your tears! Lor, You are too funny! I love your posts. So I did it I took the advice of the board. right before I left for the vacation my brother came over changed the locks and I never told dear old hubby. fabulous. No nooky in my house with the adulteress B*tch. ( love Grey's Anatomy) Vacation was amazing so perfect to be away from my life and as you saw in another post i got some male attention which was innocent and much needed. Hubby had ripped me down and told me I was physically not attractive. while this guy had no problem and he was hot. lol Anyway it was nice to feel a little bit of happiness. And I came back empowered and ready to cut contact with H. which was brilliant. H wanted to basically talk everyday... about how we felt. I was done with that so not healthy so I told him please don't talk to me it is too hard I will contact you when I can. It was such a good move because I removed the power from him! he has slipped a few times and called me have not slipped once. will not call him and even though I still have tough days weak moments I don't want to call as much and I don't care what he is doing with sister in law. the distraction and conversation of other guy is very healthy and fun. Glad to see in your other post Lor that you also have something new and fun.
Ariadne Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Hi, any advice from anyone about next steps... what do I do? file for divorce? wait till we sell the house? start thinking about dividing things.. what do I do? are there support groups I could physically go to to get me out of the house? I think the only way you are going to keep your husband and be happy is to stay put in your house, keep it nice and clean, be nice to your husband, be loving, and if he wants to have sex with you be happy. In the mean time, take this time to serious diet and exercise. Because exercise is also going to help you feel better and release stress. Let him live in the house and continue to have a normal routine, talk to him normally, if he wants to talk to you about sis-in-law just listen, and if he wants to leave, see you later hun, I love you. No reason to be angry with him, he dealing with his situation. Just watch, be strong, and see what happens. If he ever wants to leave you then ok. I'd say don't sell the house unless you divorce. Good luck, Ariadne
Lor Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Hi, any advice from anyone about next steps... what do I do? file for divorce? wait till we sell the house? start thinking about dividing things.. what do I do? are there support groups I could physically go to to get me out of the house? I think the only way you are going to keep your husband and be happy is to stay put in your house, keep it nice and clean, be nice to your husband, be loving, and if he wants to have sex with you be happy. In the mean time, take this time to serious diet and exercise. Because exercise is also going to help you feel better and release stress. Let him live in the house and continue to have a normal routine, talk to him normally, if he wants to talk to you about sis-in-law just listen, and if he wants to leave, see you later hun, I love you. No reason to be angry with him, he dealing with his situation. Just watch, be strong, and see what happens. If he ever wants to leave you then ok. I'd say don't sell the house unless you divorce. Good luck, Ariadne I take it you haven't read the whole situation........ :lmao: :lmao: Good for you, L!!!! Yeah, say See Ya Later Hun! *slam!*
Lor Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 No nooky in my house with the adulteress B*tch. :lmao: I love it! :lmao:
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