Guest Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I just got off the phone with my date for Friday night. We were set up by his sister. After the date was arranged, he started telling me that he's had his heart stomped on twice in the last two months. I know he's still hung up on them for sharing that with me so quickly, but is he even worth going out with?
Rooster_DAR Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 That depends how mature he is, and if you see any signs of this causing a problem with your dating. Honestly, after being "Stomped On" from a recent relationship, one needs to spend a good amount of time getting themselves together and trusting again. I say try it for a while and see if there are any issues he has that would bother you. roost
serial muse Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I just got off the phone with my date for Friday night. We were set up by his sister. After the date was arranged, he started telling me that he's had his heart stomped on twice in the last two months. I know he's still hung up on them for sharing that with me so quickly, but is he even worth going out with? Twice in two months? Um...how could he have gotten so emotionally involved with and become hung up on two different people in that short a space of time??? That's kind of a red flag to me - either he gets really attached without actually knowing these women, or he's a "poor me, nobody loves me" type of person who may have told you that to get your sympathy, or some combination of the two. I'd be wary. I suppose it's possible that he said it jokingly? In which case, saying that to someone he doesn't know and is about to go on a first date with is awkward at best. Way to put pressure on you.
IWalkAlone Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I just got off the phone with my date for Friday night. We were set up by his sister. After the date was arranged, he started telling me that he's had his heart stomped on twice in the last two months. I know he's still hung up on them for sharing that with me so quickly, but is he even worth going out with? If his heart has been stomped by two different women in the past two months, then he's the type to let himself get too emotionally involved too quickly. However, if you've already agreed to go on a date with him, you shouldn't break it. But don't get too close or too physical, or you'll find yourself number three.
Jane Doe Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Twice in two months? Um...how could he have gotten so emotionally involved with and become hung up on two different people in that short a space of time??? That's kind of a red flag to me - either he gets really attached without actually knowing these women, or he's a "poor me, nobody loves me" type of person who may have told you that to get your sympathy, or some combination of the two. I'd be wary. That's exactly what I was thinking. I'd go ahead and go out with him if I were you and test the waters but proceed with caution. He sounds like a clinger to me.
Timberlane Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 Better a clinger than a Klingon. The food they eat is terrible.
Guest Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 That's exactly what I was thinking. I'd go ahead and go out with him if I were you and test the waters but proceed with caution. He sounds like a clinger to me. Y'all were so right! He was nervous as hell the first hour and then he got overly comfortable. This Miss Independent isn't going to deal with that crap!
Rooster_DAR Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 I'm not sure about the Miss Indepenant statement, that seems to be what has caused the world so many problems with broken relationships and families.
Adunaphel Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 I just got off the phone with my date for Friday night. We were set up by his sister. After the date was arranged, he started telling me that he's had his heart stomped on twice in the last two months. I know he's still hung up on them for sharing that with me so quickly, but is he even worth going out with? There is more than a way to get your heart stomped on. And there is more than a way to say that your heart got stomped on. He could have been warning you that he is still hung up on his exes, so he is not really ready for dating. He could have been trying to tell you "hey, I'm a nice one. I usually get hurt by girls, not the other way around". He could have said that to have an excuse to back off in case the date does not go well. He could have been asking you to please not play with his emotions. Did he sound playful, or very serious? I'd say that you have nothing to lose - it's just a date. (people who get attached easily can still be great dates - I know because I'm one of them ) Do you know his sister well? If she is a friend of yours, she would have hopefully warned you if he is one of those sticky flypaper guy with stalkerish traits.
Guest Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 There is more than a way to get your heart stomped on. And there is more than a way to say that your heart got stomped on. He could have been warning you that he is still hung up on his exes, so he is not really ready for dating. He could have been trying to tell you "hey, I'm a nice one. I usually get hurt by girls, not the other way around". He could have said that to have an excuse to back off in case the date does not go well. He could have been asking you to please not play with his emotions. Did he sound playful, or very serious? I'd say that you have nothing to lose - it's just a date. (people who get attached easily can still be great dates - I know because I'm one of them ) Do you know his sister well? If she is a friend of yours, she would have hopefully warned you if he is one of those sticky flypaper guy with stalkerish traits. Thanks for your feedback! He was very serious when he talked about his exes. I just started working with his sister a month ago, so I don't know her very well. She did say that he likes to spend a lot of time with his girlfriends. What really bothers me is that yesterday he called me THREE times! The first time I was at lunch with a friend, so didn't ansewr. The second time he called (an hourlater) I was unloading my vehicle with groceries. Then an hour later he called again!!! Too much for me. I called him back to prevent more calls and he said that he was getting ready to page me. He called his sis to get my work pager number that is only used for clients when they are having a crisis!!! To me, that is a little much!
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