Guest Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 What is your take on cake men? There are two different kinds of cake men to me. theres the "cake man" who is married, and cheats. he wants his cake and eat it too. Then there are others i call cakemen simply becasue they have no intensions of cheating (good for them) but love to have their egos stroked by other women. Yes we all like to have our egos stroked sometimes. But what about people who knows someone who might be vulnerable, and knows their situation, but might do or say things to the other person to get a rise out them? Not to upset them really, but to purposly do or say all the right things to them to make the other person think of them, or want them, even though the person doing the what I would call teasing, knows they(themselves) are not going to cross a physical line? But they purposly say or do things to get the other person interested? Isn't that playing with fire? Personallly I think its kind of cruel for someone who knows another is vulnerable, and knows all the right things to say to keep a woman interested, and thrives off it.
justice Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I think some of it is them just seeing how far it will go and backing out at the last moment, knowing that if they chose to carry it further then thats where it would go. It doesn't make it right but it still happens.
JadeStar Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 IMO, people who play on other peoples feelings espeically if they know how they feel and are vulnerable, is just wrong. Plus these "cakemen" who have no intensions of cheating, but say/do things to see what the other person would do, is obviously into games, and it fills their ego big time. Kind of like "getting off" so to speak with out having to be physical. They possibly lack something themselves. Jade
Adunaphel Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 But what about people who knows someone who might be vulnerable, and knows their situation, but might do or say things to the other person to get a rise out them? Not to upset them really, but to purposly do or say all the right things to them to make the other person think of them, or want them, even though the person doing the what I would call teasing, knows they(themselves) are not going to cross a physical line? But they purposly say or do things to get the other person interested? Isn't that playing with fire? Personallly I think its kind of cruel for someone who knows another is vulnerable, and knows all the right things to say to keep a woman interested, and thrives off it. People who do this are not necessarily married, or in a relationship, and are not necessarily men. It's an immature, selfish, disgusting thing to do. And yes, it's playing with fire, since it can backfire on you. People who play with someone's feeling because they have no idea what they are doing or are just not thinking are one thing. Doing it on purpose for fun, or for an ego boost and not giving a rat's ass if the person you are teasing will end up hurt is just plain disgusting. Imo.
catgirl1927 Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 It's just very, very immature. Anyone who cheats is immature and selfish. And they usually say things like "I didn't MEAN for this to happen," or "All men do this, you're just insecure." Anything to deflect the blame.
Jane Doe Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I toy with one's emotions just for the fun of it or for the ego boost is a very diabolical, sick thing to do. Unfortunately I've been the victim of it more than once. Never again. The very moment you realize this is happening to you, end all contact. Immediately. Don't hang around to see what will happen or see if the person "might" be sincere. I can tell you in advance he's not.
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