daisyduke1234 Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 What is he really thinking? I've been with my boyfriend for the past 7 years. We're both in our late 20s and I thought we were very happy together and he was the one. However, he dropped a bombshell on me a couple of weeks ago and told me that he couldn't do us anymore. No reason, other than he felt that I've worn him down. Well, we've been together for 7 years, not engaged and were not living together, although were planning to move out next year into our place of our own. After he told me that, he sends me jokey emails, kisses me on the cheeks and gives me hugs. So, naturally i thought everything was okay. This weekend gone, I went to see him and he was really cold with me. I said I thought we needed to chat and I told him that I felt my feelings for him were stronger than his were for me. He told me that every time I'd said that in the past, I'd been wrong, but now I was right. He said he felt the spark had gone between us. However, he hasn't really given me any reason for wanting to finishing. One thing he did cite was my jealously. Basically, back in Feb he went to America without me (we live in the UK) to go snowboarding. Well, I wasn't allowed on this holiday and he went with people he'd met previously on the net. He actually went over Valentines Day. When he got landed (at 2pm) he texted me to say that he was going to stay over night in London. He basically stayed overnight at a girl's flat. A girl that likes him. He didn't contact me until 6pm the next day. Obviously I thought that he was cheating on me and when he got back we had a blazing row. He goes to London regularly, but when I ask to go he says that that is his space away from me... Part of me thinks I'm better off without him, but the other part of me absolutely adores him, loves him in fact. We were meant to be going to Canada on holiday next week, but I'm not so sure it#s a good idea. He has told me that we will go as friends, but I'm not to get my hopes up. I don't know whether I can go that way and not be able to hold him, kiss him etc. Just need some advice really!
JadeStar Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 One thing he did cite was my jealously. Basically, back in Feb he went to America without me (we live in the UK) to go snowboarding. Well, I wasn't allowed on this holiday and he went with people he'd met previously on the net. He actually went over Valentines Day. When he got landed (at 2pm) he texted me to say that he was going to stay over night in London. He basically stayed overnight at a girl's flat. A girl that likes him. He didn't contact me until 6pm the next day. Obviously I thought that he was cheating on me and when he got back we had a blazing row. He goes to London regularly, but when I ask to go he says that that is his space away from me... This should speak volumes to you. Not only that but him saying "you have worn him down." I'm assuming he means with your jealousy? Maybe after 7 years you all have just grown apart. I would take what he is saying seriously and know that its not best to try to remain in a relationship where its one sided, and feelings are not returned. JMO
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