Need some relationship advise.

[neo06]

Let me start at the beginning,

 

I've met this girl where I work and shes wonderful, we have become friends and over the past month or so I've begun to notice things about her (I've worked there for 6months and been friends with her for most of that). The signs I should call them, shes flirtacious friendly doesn't mind lettin me into her personal space and vice/versa and she laughs alot at my jokes.

 

Now to analyse the above, this one would assume she likes me all the signs are there. Theres just one problem, she has a boyfriend. Funnily enough this guy works there too and they as far as I know have been together since before christmas.

 

 

However she isn't like what I described above to all guys there. Now because shes with someone else possibly long term I really dont want to jeapordise my relationship with her by diving in right now. But I just cant stop thinking about her, I've tried to date other women and just get on with others but none make me have the same feeling as I do when I'm around her.

 

I really don't know what to do next, if anything. Just find someone else? Or let her be aware of my feelings for her? I think I'm skipping in and out of the "friends" zone right now.

 

Help

[fishtaco]

Challenge her boyfriend to a fight to the death!

 

Just kidding.

 

- Going after someone at work - bad idea

- Going after someone with a boyfriend - bad idea

- Going after someone at work with a boyfriend who also works there - really bad idea

 

There could be a lot of possibilities why she's flirting, and many of them have nothing to do with being attracted to you. Maybe she's looking to get her boyfriend jealous and you're the sucker that fell for the trap. Even if let's say she really does like you. She's in a relationship already yet she flirts. So say if you do kill her boyfriend in hand-to-hand combat and take her as the prize, what's to stop her from flirting with some other guy after becoming your girlfriend?

 

Forget her, you just have a crush on her that's all. You said you've already gone on dates with other women. Good job, keep doing that. Sooner or later you'll meet someone that's even better than her.

[neo06]

Yeah I knew the answer before I posted, I should just leave it and move on. Remain casual friends with her or not. Cause like you say whether she likes me or not in that way or her mannerism is merely to flirt with guys she does like on a friendship level or otherwise its bad news to lets say sh*t where you eat.

[Hitman10000]

If you haven't gotten to the actual friends stage then you should be getting there right now.