Guest Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 After reading all these threads and identifying with so many of them, I have to wonder why so many of us are not in relationships with people who feel and act within the same boundaries we have that are causing all these posts (ie: the ex they go out to dinner with and lie about, the opposite sex friend that it starts to cross the line, finding of text messages to a random person you never heard of and the subsequent strange hours, the list goes on and on). I guess I am just wondering if there is a low self esteem under it that maybe we saw signs that were not right but went along hoping we were wrong? Or do we sectrely need someone who is inaccessible? The bitter challenge? And reading so many posts I have realized to not believe I am crazy or overreacting, that if the SO's bad behavior is not stopped dead in its tracks things only get worse. Don't look the other way people! Don't compromise! Get to the bottom of the truth. I think these things happen too and get worse when you try to be nice and apologize for being untrusting, when you were given reason to be. It is a total headgame. So many of these guys getting married being faithful having issues with their SO's possible deceptions. So many women with boyfriends they are faithful to but the boyfriend does things that cause insecurity, and we sit here wondering if we are overreacting. And never shall the 2 faithful type people end up in a relationship with another faithful type. Or too rarely. Why??? Maybe we should look at ourselves and the partner we are trying to change and ask "why"??
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