vanButterfly Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 am 29, just had an ended relationship (14 months), a 4 year one ended before that, and a 6 year one ended before that one. Not only do I feel like a failure sometimes because they didnt work, but I feel I have some need to meet someone soon to get to know for a few years, settle down, then have children. I know I got this idea from my parents (Croatian). How can I get this out of my mind? They say that you cant get something out of your mind by logic if it wasnt put there by logic. Everyone tells me not to rush or worry about it and that I will find someone when I am ready. I am not looking for someone, and I dont want any short term relationships. I just cant see when I will meet someone. Noone can tell me this - I know this. I guess I am just worried sometimes and would like to hear about what others felt and what they realised later in life. Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 Stop worrying, take your time, and relax. Your true love will find you when you lease expect it. I use to have similar feelings in search of my soul mate, but i figure if i don't stop stressing out about this, i might end up with a bad ulcer..lol..You're right no one can tell you...but you will know when the time is right. Take care and good luck to you.... Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 I'll break out a bit of logic. You're 29, so you have a good ten years of child bearing left, at least. You could fit both your six year and four year relationships into that time. So you have plenty of time to get to know someone. Plus, you are at the point where you have a better idea of what you want in life, so you will probably need less time to be sure of things. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
vanButterfly Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 Well - using logic - I have to say it's a good argument to not worry. Those 6+4 years felt like a LONG time, and yes - I agree that it's a long time ahead of me and lots of time to find someone. Thanks for this. It's those times when emotions take over that logic takes a back seat. Link to post Share on other sites
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