My boyfriend still keeps a profile on a dating site and logs in every few days

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My boyfriend keeps his profile on a dating site that he paid for before he met me. We didn't meet on any internet site and I'd had a "bogus" profile on this site just to see if there were people I knew on it, but never put a photo or anything because I don't belive in internet dating.

I told my boyfriend that I had a profile on their that was kind of "half" true and he found it when we first went out and sent me a wink which was cute.

 

It says on the site when was the last time each person logged in. When we first met there was a period where his last log in was 40 days, but now I see he logs in quite regularly.

 

I told him I didn't like it and asked him why he still does it. He told me there are people he knows on there and just likes to see them sometimes, but that I have absolutely nothing to worry about. He stopped paying for the site a long time ago but even if you stop paying (you can even be on for free with limited options) your profile still stays on "forever"

 

What do you think about this? Is this normal? He asked why I still keep a profile on there and I told him it was only bogus just to see people I knew as well, but didn't want them to see me.

He said he would eventually "do what I want him to do" which is to take it off.

But is this a common thing? Do people just keep profiles on free dating sites out of habit even if they are in a relationship?

[Aussie65]

he's keeping his options open hun.....dump him.

[serial muse]

i'm afraid i agree with the last poster. i do internet dating, and it's generally the case that when both people agree to be exclusive and are focused on each other, they will "hide" their profiles. leaving it up and active, to me, says he's still looking. the bit about it staying up forever regardless of whether you pay - not exactly. you can still hide it whenever you want to.

 

how long have you been dating?

[Adunaphel]

Does it say that he's happily not single in his profile?

 

Or: has the profile been updated since you got together?

 

Anyway, I know some people who did this - they got in a relationship but did not take their profiles off dating sites since they thought it was no big deal

(you have to keep in mind that guys don't get flooded with messages/emails like many girls do when they are on a dating site, so it's also easier for them to 'just forget' they have a profile on somewhere).

 

Other people keep their profiles on to 'look around' and 'paly the field',so to speak. Or to get an ego boost.

 

I think that what is really important is that your bf has no problems taking it off.