Charisma Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 There's this new guy I'm dating that I've known for awhile as a friend. The other day when I called to chat with him he said, "You've been text messaging me." I'm sure he remembers that I don't have a cell phone. Of course now I'm a bit suspicious about this....whose text messaging him and why did he think it was me? We've never spoken about being exclusive, but of course I'm curious to know if he's seeing other girls. Can someone explain how text messaging works. Do you see the other person's phone number on the screen? Can someone send an anonymous message? Sorry I'm still behind in the times....
DeeBrod83 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 If it's sent from a cell phone the number or contact name if they're saved in the receiver's phone will show. BUT you can send a text from a carrier's website in which case you can say it's whomever you want. Did you ask him why he thought it was you?
ash8752 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Also, if he has a Nextel and doesnt have texting on his plan he will only receive the message with no name or number.
serial muse Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 There's this new guy I'm dating that I've known for awhile as a friend. The other day when I called to chat with him he said, "You've been text messaging me." I'm sure he remembers that I don't have a cell phone. Of course now I'm a bit suspicious about this....whose text messaging him and why did he think it was me? so um...what'd you say when he said that?? boy did he screw up.
Author Charisma Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 I actually was caught a bit off guard and just told him I don't text message anyone...and really didn't ask any other questions. I should've because that would've been my opportunity but next time we see each other I'll be curious to find out if there are others. Before we started dating a couple of weeks ago I did ask if he had a gf but he claimed he didn't. I really didn't get suspicious until I hung up and started thinking maybe there's more on the go then I realize. He does travel a lot and I thought it might have been someone he met in another city. I'm hoping he'll be honest about what's going on, so that I can make a decision on where I want any kind of a relationship with him to go.
DeeBrod83 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 I'd say you're best bet is to just up and ask. Can't hurt. Just don't do it in an accusing way, and it should be fine.
Author Charisma Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 A friend of mine suggested I put my suspicions to the test by playing a trick on him. She suggested I text message him through his carrier website and ask him to meet me somewhere but don't sign my name, just to see if he's seeing someone else. If he shows up....I'll have my answer. The problem with that is it's completely out of character for me and something I just don't feel I should be doing. I also run the risk of being caught. On top of that I don't know if he's seeing anyone for sure. He may find it suspicious himself and not show up. If the tables were turned I wouldn't want anyone to do that to me...I would just be honest with them. Is this such a good idea?
Walk Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 I wouldn't do do that. Maybe if you asked and you felt his answers were shady (about dating other people)... but playing games doesn't work out very well. I have a funny story that kind of relates. So I'd just started dating my bf at the time, and gotten to the stage where he'd called me "sexy" a couple of times. Then one day I get a voice message on my phone where a guy (who sounded like my bf) said "Hey Sexy! How've you been. I'll call you later." Except I'd been out of area, so no number showed up in caller ID. Anyway.. I tell my bf it was so sweet he left that voicemessage, etc.. and he informs me he DIDN'T call me at all that day. I'm glad I had left off the "hey sexy" part when I mentioned it. I still have no clue who called and left that message. I wasn't dating anyone else, no hanky-panky on the side. Could've possibly been a guy I dated for like a week about 6 months prior to that.. but *shrug*.. who knows. Probably a wrong number. hahah Anyway, point is.. there could be several explainations for why he's getting text messages that he thought could've been from you. Don't jump the gun and run him through a bunch of tests without asking him some questions first.
Author Charisma Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 Thanks Walk...that is a funny story and makes me feel a little better. You're right it isn't such a good idea since I don't know all the facts. We've only started dating, so it's too weird of a thing to be doing that may have negative results in the end.
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