yk_2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Me and my boyfriend of 1.5 years broke it off, he stopped calling me ater realizing that we only argue and he doesn't want to push it. That is what I've been telling him way before any of this happened. We've been playing cat and dog for a few months, he lives in different state and now back at school and I work f/t. We ahaven't spoke for two weeks, some of his stuff is still at my place and I sleep in his sweatshirt and miss him being around. He also got my keys and I can't take showers and not think that he will pop up any moment which is very unlikely cause he is far away but i just never know. I think now I should face it. Before we broke up I asked him if he wanted to go on an adventure trip with me, he agreed. We broke up, he still wants to go but it sure feel strange to know I will see him, realizing we broke up. Most people will be my friends that he doesn't really know and some he dislikes. And since we broke up, I want him to pay me back, hence i did not intend to pay for him in the first place. My question, how should I handle the situation if it gets wierd...how can I get him to pay me back for the trip and what if he just doesn't show up when we all meet?
db75 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 It's probably not a real good idea to have him go on this trip with you at all. You've obviously still got alot of feelings for him. Not to mention him paying you back. I just see the potential for alot of feelings getting hurt with this.
swirly27 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 I agree, I don't think he should be going on this trip either....but what do you do if he does just show up? I would contact him maybe and tell him after everything that has happened that it would not be a good idea for him to go on this trip - you are the one paying for it anyway and that would just be another hassle of trying to get him to pay you back. Then you can suggest him sending you your things and you doing the same for him. Missing him and wanting him back is hard, but if both of you aren't willing to work on the relationship, you'll need time now to move on and work on focusing on yourself and your life without him. Sucks I know....
Author yk_2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Author Posted September 21, 2006 I agree, I don't think he should be going on this trip either....but what do you do if he does just show up? I would contact him maybe and tell him after everything that has happened that it would not be a good idea for him to go on this trip - you are the one paying for it anyway and that would just be another hassle of trying to get him to pay you back. Then you can suggest him sending you your things and you doing the same for him. Missing him and wanting him back is hard, but if both of you aren't willing to work on the relationship, you'll need time now to move on and work on focusing on yourself and your life without him. Sucks I know.... Here is what happened on the trip and after. I was set that he's not going, I stayed over a friends house overnight cause I needed a ride. That late night, my bf(ex?) called me and said he resolved his problems and is able to go on the trip. As much as I was excited I was misrable to think I will see him and everything will start all over again. When we met, we did not talk, kept somewhat of a distance but I sat with him on the bus, he looked at me, stared at me, held my hand and held in there strong not to show me his tears. I've never met a man as emotional but yet so masculine as him, I adore that so much. We were not all over each other, we had a good distance thoughtout the trip. On the way back I needed a ride home, he offered and I agreed. We spend the night together, it was less meaningful but we held each other close with puzzled faces. He left later that evening. He had a spare of keys for my place, i asked back for it. He did not take any of his stuff and i did not feel the need to be all emotional about it and throw it at him. We did not argue, he just left quietly saying something like "you'll find me when you know". I stayed in bed whole evening, crying out loud that i already found him. He IMed me yesterday, asked me about my day. I let him know that it's very hard for me and he has to leave me alone and give me space.
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