Is this Karma?

[Divine]

when i was 16 yrs old, i had a wonderful boyfriend, he treated my like a queen and i dumped him and broke his heart so bad. he totally did not deserve to be treated the way i treated him. fast forward 3 months later, i realized how stupid i was for leaving this guy and begged for his forgiveness and we dated for 1year after that, things were perfect until he realized that he actually did not forgive me and will never forgive me for how i treated him.I was so hurt and the fact that he forgave me made me love and respect him even more. I was totally devastated Fast forward eight years later and i met a wonderful guy and he dumped me and treated me exactly how i treated my first love.Is this Karma?

[Brittanyjean06]

I believe in karma. But it is what you think it is.

[Agent M]

It could be karma, but more importantly are the lessons you learn out of all this. Think about how you have grown personally through all of these experiences. That's really what karma is all about. It's a system of checks and balances, but its purpose is to teach you better.

[Adunaphel]

Is this Karma?

 

No.

 

In the case of your fist boyfriend, it is called "paying the consequences of a choice you made".

 

In the second case, it is called "coincidence". Now, if this second guy changed his mind, dated you and you broke up with him after a year because you can't forgive him for dumping you, then it *could* perhaps remind karma to some. But it would still be a coincidence. A wicked one.

 

You are not going to be dumped and treated badly all your life just because you did this to a guy when you were 16.

[BBetsy]

I've had similar thoughts, experiences, and I'd like to add how GREAT that is, and how lucky you are to have had this. That sounds corny, but I mean it. Now you have the wisdom of seeing this from both perspectives, which will help a great deal with your future relationships. It's not karma; it's LIFE.