stillafool Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 why do you say this is no one she'd have a future with? I definitely think she wants to see him in person so she can kiss him, touch him, etc. Maybe make love for the last time. Also by being so strict on her not to see him will make her want to see him more. Like telling your teenage daughter not to see the bad boy. I don't think she is through with this guy to be honest. Also I would consult an attorney about my parental rights. I don't think you would lose your kids. I'm sorry you came from a broken home but is it worth what you are going through to keep a marriage that is broken. Is that good for the kids? Not saying your marriage can't be saved but if your wife doesn't straighten up and you have to go on without her you and your kids will be okay.
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 But if my husband had tried to put me on a leash, i could have lived with it for a very brief while & then i would have gone crazy. I couldn't have lived that way & neither could he. You have to try to rebuild your trust for her & if you cannot do it & if she cannot give up OM then it may be time for you both to move on. But try to give it some time. Good luck. This is one of the consquences of an affair. The cheater gets put on a leash, and 'watched' for quite a while...Don't blame the BS for this. The insecurity and mistrust is because of the spouses choice to cheat. You have to try to rebuild your trust for her She must GAIN his trust, by being faithful and being an open book. I agree, he has to try to trust, but the one who cheated has to do alot of the leg work to prove they're worthy of that trust again.
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