luzzie_guzzie Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Well, its actually one baby. Well, when we got together he told me he didn't have kids then two months into the relationship he told me he had a baby and it was only two weeks old!!!! I was devastated I tried to break up with him but he convinced me that that was the only thing he lied to me about and that he really wanted to be with me. He said he was going to be honest with me and inform me about whatever happens between him and his ex. Two weeks later we broke up because I felt him distant and it seemed like he didn't want to make it up to me. And it seemed like he always wanted to fight. He kept calling me asking for another chance, so after weeks of begging, we got back together. Now i dont know if I did the riight thing. Please help!
arniebuteft Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Even if that's his only lie, goddamn it was a doozy of a lie! I'd have my doubts about the relationship at this point. Do you not want to date a man with children, or was it just the lie that caused you to break up? There's nothing wrong with turning him down because he has a kid, he's going to have different priorities, responsibilities, etc., than a guy who doesn't have kids, just something to think about too.
JamesM Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 A good man for husband/father material would love his child...especially one that is only two weeks old. He would brag about it...not lie. Yes, you did the wrong thing. Based on the info presented, I would tell you to break it off, because it doesn't look like this is a longterm prospect.
HokeyReligions Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Anyone who would deny his own child would be history for me. That lie was waaaaay too big.
guest Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Thanks for your responses. I do have doubts about the relationship but he's just very persistant. I feel ppl do need second chances so at this point hes on probation. One more lie or argument and he's gone. When I met him I told him I dont date guys with kids because they have too much responsibility to the child and the mother. I want to be the only one, does that sound selfish? I really liked him in the beginning, but when he told me about the baby everything went downhill. I didn't believe him at first because I had met his family and they didn't say anything about it. I used to talk to his sister regularly and she wouldn't say anything about it. When he met my family, my brother asked him if he had kids (that's an issue for my brother also) and he said no. I did want to see if it could work out but now im not sure.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 A good man for husband/father material would love his child...especially one that is only two weeks old. He would brag about it...not lie. yeah. i mean, who trusts a jerk who denies his child's existence just to get with a gir? it not only shows you he's a liar, but also what kind of "father" he is and will be. yuck. what a pig. who cares is he's persistent? are you that weak? why not try to be persistent yourself, persistent in not dating lying a-holes?
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