jillybabes Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 after 3 years, the guy i've been seeing has found someone else willing to put up with his ****, and has finally stopped calling. i am gutted even though i know i was fed up with him really and that he'd never make me happy long term. so i need you lot to hammer me over the head with why he's a total loser: here are the things that are wrong with him. please please tell me why i shouldn't be upset! thanks!! 1 he is ugly. this shouldn't matter, but it does when he thinks he is really something special. 2 he has terrible teeth. it's 2006 for god's sake, see an orthodontist! 3 he is an alcoholic. gets up at 4am just for a drink, at the weekends anyway. 4 he is very tight with money. of which he has quite a lot. 5 he lives in a cesspit. he leaves his washing up for the cleaner. who comes fortnightly. 6 he once shat the bed. with me in it. 7 he has all sorts of family issues, hates his mother etc. 8 he has hit me a couple of times. not hard, but then is there any such thing? 9 he lies. constantly. about everything. 10 he has a terrible temper. 11 he has sleep apnoea. you can hear the guy from the other end of an express train. 12 he has stubby fingers and dirty nails. 13 he dances very very badly, embarrassing me, but thinks he looks great. 14 he wears his coat in a club because he won't pay for the cloakroom. 15 he talks garbage about the nazis when drunk - his dad was one, so he raves on and on about his "blue eyed brothers". 16 he is racist. i hate this. 17 his career is going nowhere. 18 he told me i was "milking it" 3 weeks after my mother died very suddenly. i had barely mentioned it and still don't talk about it much, 9 months later. i actually think this might be the worst thing i have ever heard anyone say to anyone... 19 he walks like charlie chaplin. 20 he has terrible dress sense. he wears the same clothes and doesn't shower all weekend. 21 ALL my friends, without exception, hate him. 22 he is bald and gets a terribly sweaty head. for no reason. 23 he hadn't bought new bedding for over 15 years. naively i bought him some, now he's shagging das german whore on it. ce la vie. 24 he never bought me anything, apart from 1 "little britain" talking character. yup, that makes up for: storm watch, mont blanc cufflinks, chanel aftershave, diesel and gap jeans, ted baker shirt, books, surprise christmas box, dinner out... any pearls of wisdom from you lot!?
swirly27 Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Aww Jills, you're not an idiot, because you have feelings and they are how you feel, so never feel like an idiot because of those feelings.....but I can tell you after reading this list about this guy, it made me wonder what you do see in him. I am a stranger I know and know nothing about this guy and I don't know him personally, but WHAT did attract you to him. I would think the best remedy here is to keep reading this list over and over to yourself. Its GOTTA help!!
JamesM Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 That reminds me of a "becker" TV show where Jake (the blind guy) plans to break up with his girlfirned. She comes to the meeting and breaks up with him. He is depressed the whole show. The breaking up is what hurts. It is the rejection that you feel more than the loss of love. You miss the fact that you had someone. "You are an idiot for being upset."
Adunaphel Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 You are an idiot for being upset. You could, and should be throwing a party right now. But do not be hard on yourself - okay, you are wasting more useful time (like three years were not enough) on someone you are so much better off without. But it's normal. And you'll have plenty of time to celebrate getting rid of him once you become totally aware that you should be glad he is not calling anymore. Do not worry,it's just a matter of a few days.
climbergirl Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 after 3 years, the guy i've been seeing has found someone else willing to put up with his ****, and has finally stopped calling. i am gutted even though i know i was fed up with him really and that he'd never make me happy long term. so i need you lot to hammer me over the head with why he's a total loser: here are the things that are wrong with him. please please tell me why i shouldn't be upset! thanks!! 1 he is ugly. this shouldn't matter, but it does when he thinks he is really something special. 2 he has terrible teeth. it's 2006 for god's sake, see an orthodontist! 3 he is an alcoholic. gets up at 4am just for a drink, at the weekends anyway. 4 he is very tight with money. of which he has quite a lot. 5 he lives in a cesspit. he leaves his washing up for the cleaner. who comes fortnightly. 6 he once shat the bed. with me in it. 7 he has all sorts of family issues, hates his mother etc. 8 he has hit me a couple of times. not hard, but then is there any such thing? 9 he lies. constantly. about everything. 10 he has a terrible temper. 11 he has sleep apnoea. you can hear the guy from the other end of an express train. 12 he has stubby fingers and dirty nails. 13 he dances very very badly, embarrassing me, but thinks he looks great. 14 he wears his coat in a club because he won't pay for the cloakroom. 15 he talks garbage about the nazis when drunk - his dad was one, so he raves on and on about his "blue eyed brothers". 16 he is racist. i hate this. 17 his career is going nowhere. 18 he told me i was "milking it" 3 weeks after my mother died very suddenly. i had barely mentioned it and still don't talk about it much, 9 months later. i actually think this might be the worst thing i have ever heard anyone say to anyone... 19 he walks like charlie chaplin. 20 he has terrible dress sense. he wears the same clothes and doesn't shower all weekend. 21 ALL my friends, without exception, hate him. 22 he is bald and gets a terribly sweaty head. for no reason. 23 he hadn't bought new bedding for over 15 years. naively i bought him some, now he's shagging das german whore on it. ce la vie. 24 he never bought me anything, apart from 1 "little britain" talking character. yup, that makes up for: storm watch, mont blanc cufflinks, chanel aftershave, diesel and gap jeans, ted baker shirt, books, surprise christmas box, dinner out... any pearls of wisdom from you lot!? Wow. Quite the list he's got there. What did you see in him? <<the guy i've been seeing has found someone else willing to put up with his ****>> Sorry, thought that was really funny in light of #6 on your list!
Author jillybabes Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 thanks everyone, things like that cheer me up a lot. i'd much rather read the list and laugh than think about how bitter i could get if i let myself! i saw a lot in him that wasn't really there, i think. he was my boss originally and we worked crazy hours together, so it developed from that. combination of me wanting to think that the good points on the surface ran all the way through and being too insecure to believe i could meet someone else. well, he's forced it on me now, and more fool him. he admits he wants this german because she is cold and doesn't make him think about things, she just lets him get on with drinking himself into an early grave. and she isn't very bright, which apparently he finds attractive because i make him feel inferior (as if, the guy is so arrogant that he probably thinks GOD is inferior to himself) and she is very fit. that is all. more fool him for throwing away our connection for someone who is goodlooking but dull. bah! men!!
littlekitty Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 and she isn't very bright, which apparently he finds attractive because i make him feel inferior The mans a complete idiot...! You are 100 times better off with out the blady, ugly, smelly, sh*tty, dumb, bad dancing twat....!!
TheSilentType Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 6 he once shat the bed. with me in it. How romantic Nothing says "I love you" like taking a dump in bed while your gf is sleeping there But seriously....your Casanova is kind of cool....he just doesn't give a damn. I want to be like that
littlekitty Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 How romantic Nothing says love like taking a dump in bed while your gf is sleeping there But seriously....your Casanova is kind of cool....he just doesn't give a damn. I want to be like that What smelly and covered in sh*t?!!
TheSilentType Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 What smelly and covered in sh*t?!! hey when you got to go.....you got to go. nature needs no excuses missy
littlekitty Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 hey when you got to go.....you got to go. nature needs no excuses missy Eh true. Nature was obviously yelling.... not just calling in his case....!!
Adunaphel Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 How romantic Nothing says "I love you" like taking a dump in bed while your gf is sleeping there It is probably one of the two or three less worrisome entries on the list. (well, unless he did it on purpose) If you are in love you do not dump someone over a bad diarrhea case. (no pun intended) But no matter how in love you have been with them, if they treast you badly, hits you, lies to you, seems to have no respect for humankind in general, included himself, well, you should be glad they are out of your life.
Author jillybabes Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 so we were lying on the bed a while ago and he was asleep. i was pretty much dressed as it was about 4am and was trying to be bothered to get up and go home. suddenly he let rip with the most god almighty fart known to man. this did not amuse me. the smell was indescribable and, worst of all, it was such an offensive fart that he had woken himself up. never a good sign. shaking his head and looking blearily around, he jumped off the bed and shot into the bathroom. within seconds, i heard the attractive sound of snoring coming from the toilet. nice. but after a moment i realised that the smell was still lingering. peeling open my own bloodshot eyes, i noticed the dark stain on the sheets right. next. to. my. ****ing. head. a leopard with curry up its ass couldn't have moved that quickly. i jumped up and finished getting dressed. the dirty bastard had skidded on the sheets. it was all over. and i don't just mean all over the sheets. or was it? i couldn't find my right boot. eventually, as the snoring from the bathroom increased in crescendo, i turned the light on. and nearly barfed and fainted. he had not just followed through but had actually curled out an entire "richard the third". there it sat, coiled on the bed, looking at me. jesus. had he been facing the other way, the foul animal would have shat on ME! i turned the light off, ran out, jumped in my car and fled home. i was so traumatised i had to wake my flatmate. she laughed herself silly. then she sat up. "you turned the light off?" "yes." "so he would have woken up on the toilet... decided it was time to go back to bed... got back in it in the dark..." that sentence should NEVER be finished. he was drunk and incontinent and asleep, it wasn't as if he did it to make a statement or for sexual reasons. ugh, it was truly one of the grimmest things i have ever seen in my entire life!! sadly he's not a cool heartbreaker like james bond or similar. he's a middle aged balding alcoholic who hates himself and his life for no good reason and who drinks and does drugs to get away from that fact.
stoopid_guy Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 You're an idiot for being upset. The good news: You definately should have no problems finding someone better. Please, go out and find some sweet, sober guy who respects himself and you.
Miss1984 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Don't feel stupid for being upset. You appear very rational and you know that the emotions you are feeling right now don't make much sense, but I suppose that's the thing about feelings you don't have control over! Believe me I know what you're feeling, I recently broke up with someone who treated me badly- the relationship was bad news from the start and I'm far better off out of it. But still I feel upset and sad at times, it's on my mind a lot and I hate the thought of him with someone else. To be fair, he isn't nearly as much of a t**t as your ex sounds- you deserve a medal for putting up with someone so foul for so long! We shouldn't feel bad, though, really we should be happy to get rid of them- but JamesM is right, it's just the initial losing someone and breaking up that hurts. I guess that just takes time. I'm glad you can look at it with humour- it will get you through. Your posts have made me laugh!
Author jillybabes Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 most of the time i'm rational about it and i find that a sense of humour helps enormously. of course, fantasies about george, brad and chandler have been replaced with fantasies about stabbing her to death and running him over in my car, but that's got to be normal, right?!
Miss1984 Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Completely normal and healthy- it's just your way of dealing with things... As long as you don't actually stab her to death or run her over, of course- that could be seen as going too far!
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