Guest Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 or ask me to go with him. I met A. at the end of April. He's in the U.S. as a consultant but otherwise lives in England. We started seeing eachother in mid-May. He was suppose to be here until the end of July but had the option to stay until November. I convinced him/ he decided to stay until November to see what happens between us. During this time, he's also been in England for 6 weeks (3 weeks at a time). When he returned from his last trip in Aug. we started living together to get to know eachother faster/better. Our relationship for me has had a hint of sadness, it feels like I'm playing house and having a fling. This weekend, I pressued him to tell me what his feelings are about November, even though I promissed him that we wouldn't talk about it until he was ready to or until October. He's told me that it's not a fling, it's companionship, that he really likes me and that I'm great but there's something missing. That he doesn't see it going past November, I don't know what to do, break-up now, or wait until later. Part of me hopes that his feelings will change but a bigger part doubts it. I'm not in love, I don't think but, maybe it's because of this artificail deadline or I might be and apparently, he wouldn't. I really like him and get a long better and easier with him than any previous relationship. I'm in my mid-thirties and he's 27 but he's more stable, confident, successful, well spoken than I am, I think. Once drunk, he mentioned our age difference and when he's ready to have children I might be too old. This might also play a part in it or like he said, there's just something missing and he either knows what it is but won't tell me or doesn't know, it just is. I'm sad and would really appreciate advice. Thank you
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