Confused Guest Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Hello everyone, I have a question and I need some advice. There is this guy who I am extremely attracted to, we have been friends for a little over two years and we have a lot of fun hanging out together. We are both single and I would like to change that. However, he is graduating in December of this year and then moving to another state...a ways away. Therefore, he is scared to try anything for fear of getting hurt and for fear of hurting me. It's not that I'm not scared that something would happen, I just don't think that we should not give something a shot that could be great. Is this completely unrealistic? If it's not, how do I get him to see my way? Any help would be greatly appreciated. -Searching for a solution
spinningmywheels Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 You don't say whether he's graduating high school or college, but I don't know if it matters. I have to say, I agree with you - granted 3.5 months is not a long time, but why not have happiness while you can? What's the worst that happens, you have three or so months of really nice, fun times with a guy you like? Isn't that the whole theory behind taking a risk? That it's worse not to try? You could take your cue from that movie, "Say Anything" - John Cusack convinces the girl they'll just be friends and they hang out all summer before she leaves (of course, it doesn't end that way). Maybe you could approach it that way and just say "I see your point, and I don't want either of us to be hurt either, but I really like spending time with you and I'd rather hang out with you even for a little while than not hang out with you?" Good luck....
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