Guest Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I am really confused. I'd like to: -- Be in a committed relationship. -- Have children (Adoption is also ok) -- Keep work (over family) as my priority in life. I am very ambitious and a workaholic, and am currently doing very well in life. -- Have a support system when I am old. I believe I can have that if I have a lot of money. -- Be loved -- I am scared of divorce. My parents are divorce, and the thought of going through that freaks me out. -- Take care of my parents since they are getting old, but, would like my SO to help me take care of them. So, in essence, I want a committed woman; I want to be her provider -- She doesnt need to earn a penny; and She will have an allowance of say 5000 a month... I am ok if she has relationships with other people, but, she must always be clean -- no diseases whatsoever. She must always be home when I return. I will never sleep around -- I just don't care that much about sex. Do I have to get married to have all this (minus the outside relationships)? I don't want to sound like I don't care -- but, my priorities have been and always will be work and money... but, I want these other things in life as well. What do I do?
ShoeGirl Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 From what I can tell you basically want a wife to spend your money, you are not very interested in having a physical relationship so you would allow her to sleep around. I am sure that you could find a woman who would love to not work and have money to spend as she wishes. But may I ask what the point of marriage is in this case?
littlekitty Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 You don't want a wife. A maid would work better. She'd fit all of the categories, be there when you came home, and the right one might even sleep with you too!! Otherwise you're going to need a very certain type of women.
kulyok Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 -- Be loved I'm afraid no amount of money will help you there, unless you are able to love yourself.
lighthouse Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Well it sound like your main issue here (meaning the only reason that you would need a wife as opposed to a maid) is that you want someone who is willing to help take care of your older parents. They actually are women like that. I have elderly parents and I take care of them. I am their caregiver. Maybe you could try and find someone who also likes older people that you actually care for. You could try to love someone and then you wouldn't have to worry about this stuff. I don't think that you should just "consider marriage" because it looks good. If nothing else you want someone to help take care of your parents - don't you want someone who is caring and loving to take care of your parents because, let me tell you, that takes a special kind of person. LH
Island Girl Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 You want a live in nurse with benefits. You do not want a wife. I'm sure there are women out there that would love to participate with such a generous offer of $5000 a month. But usually they aren't really good at taking care of anyone but themselves! lol Depending on how much care your parents will require - are they bed-ridden? That level of care will dictate how many are willing to take on the task. You want a careprovider, namely a nurse, who is lacking in self-respect, sees money as the most important thing in life, is willing to be bought like a comodity, and who will be readily available to you upon demand. Since nurses and caregivers are generally not in it for the money but love helping people, see human beings (including themselves) as valuable - and not in a way that they can be bought, you are looking for a needle in a haystack. I'm thinking you want her to be gorgeous as well. --- In which case she can probably find someone who is not trying to treat her like a prostitute. So you are going to have to do a lot of interviewing. HA!
Mirage222 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 haha I'll date you! Cannot garentee love though because who will have time for that while I am out spending your money?
Guest Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 Well it sound like your main issue here (meaning the only reason that you would need a wife as opposed to a maid) is that you want someone who is willing to help take care of your older parents. They actually are women like that. I have elderly parents and I take care of them. I am their caregiver. Maybe you could try and find someone who also likes older people that you actually care for. You could try to love someone and then you wouldn't have to worry about this stuff. I don't think that you should just "consider marriage" because it looks good. If nothing else you want someone to help take care of your parents - don't you want someone who is caring and loving to take care of your parents because, let me tell you, that takes a special kind of person. LH You are right... As of now, my highest priority is to find someone who genuinely would look after my parents -- I don't want them to live in assisted living, and want them to be happy for the years they have left. Don't get me wrong... Obviously, I want to be loved to... But, I have listed my priorities... And love comes lower in all that. It's not right or wrong; It's just that some people have different priorities.
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