Adam Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 They always come back...isnt that the expression? I have read so many posts on this and expecially on the Second Chance list. I have read break up books that said Once your finally over them they come back or call or something. How many of you have stories like that? I was just wondering because i have read a few e-books about getting back ex's and it said that even if they found someone else (which mine did right away its been a month so im not sweating it) that only .... 30% of the time it will last (rebound relationship) 70% of the time IT WILL NOT!! Because in the back of their mind, no matter how mad they are at you or whatever they dumped you for, they are ALWAYS comparing you to the new person...and of course they don't even compare to you! I was wondering if anyone had any stories like this or had any other fun little facts like this?
Confuggled_one Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 ya it's true. but when they realize it most of the time it's too late
Shattered Heart Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Because in the back of their mind, no matter how mad they are at you or whatever they dumped you for, they are ALWAYS comparing you to the new person...and of course they don't even compare to you! Yeah, unless she broke up with you to be with her "best friend" of 12 years, claims to have always loved him, and used and toyed with your heart for almost a year and a half, all the while giving you false hope by saying that you are the one she is going to marry and spend the rest of her life with. Yes, it happens, and it sucks. BIG TIME! Especially when all you've ever done was treat her like gold, and were a great boyfriend to her. So, yes, she may compare you to this new person, but I wouldn't hold my breath that she's going to think that you blow away this guy in every department. You can "try" to get inside her mind and wonder what she's thinking, but I've learned that it's just a waste of time, as you will NEVER EVER EVER figure out a woman, ESPECIALLY the mental cases. But I'm not bitter or anything
jec Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 mine came back repeatedly after every misdemeanour for 3 years. but since he met someone else willing to put up with him and his ****, i haven't even had a single text from him. they suck, they all suck!!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 This isn't always guaranteed. I thought my ex was entering in too a rebound relationship. Well flush that thought down the drain. Year later they are engadged and I had the ex's fiance tell me he never came to loving me as much as he loved her Some come back, some really don't. Best thing to do is not hope for it...trust me!
daphne Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Britt, If I remember correctly, the ex's fiancée was the same low rent person that went out of her way to make you feel bad after the breakup. You believe someone who feels it imperative to prove to you how much better she is for him than you? pfft. They deserve each other. And yes, most of the time they do come back. Depends on teh circumstances tho.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 i've been the 'dumper' in all my relationships. i've never gone back. so, no, they don't all come back. and i'll think you'll find much evidence of that too, just here on this site. some do though. i guess it's taking a chance just like taking a chance with someone you've never been with before. you never know.
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Britt, If I remember correctly, the ex's fiancée was the same low rent person that went out of her way to make you feel bad after the breakup. You believe someone who feels it imperative to prove to you how much better she is for him than you? pfft. They deserve each other. And yes, most of the time they do come back. Depends on teh circumstances tho. thanks, they do desearve eachother time will take the rose colored glasses off eventually haha We all hope for them to come back, but its not always certain that they do..some do and some don't and thats all there is to it
Guest Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I have know my former fiance for five years. When we started dating five years ago he would tell me that he would call me later and not call for months. He would suddenly call again, things would be perfect and he would disappear. In the time between his calls, I got married to an abusive person and quickly seperated. He came back again after my divorce and told me that he wanted a chance with me and was glad to have the opportunity and he proposed. Four months later, we had a minor argument, he detached and was caught seeing someone else. Our engagement broke off. After seven months of absolute misery I moved on and met a great guy. We ran into my ex fiance at a bar and that evening he texted me asking how he could win my heart back. I was hesitant but I truly believed we were soulmates and he needed time to figure things out. I ended up ending things with the guy I was seeing to get back together with the former fiance. He ended up proposing to me again and things were better than ever for six months until he became distant again and I suspected he was seeing someone else. After bending over backwards for him he abruptly ended our enngagement after I found out that he told people it was over weeks ago. It would have been nice had he told me! I guess he told them that so if they saw him out with someone else, they wouldn't mistake her for me or think he was a creep. He came to my house, took my ring and tv and kissed me on the head. He walked away without a tear and the night before he spent all night whispering how much he loved me. So, yes, they can come back and it probably will not last. And now I know that what goes around comes around because I broke a nice guy's heart for this creep and now I am the one left heartbroken and hating myself for not being good enough. Do you think he will come back this time??
Rooster_DAR Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 i've been the 'dumper' in all my relationships. i've never gone back. so, no, they don't all come back. and i'll think you'll find much evidence of that too, just here on this site. some do though. i guess it's taking a chance just like taking a chance with someone you've never been with before. you never know. Remind me never to date you.
Akasha Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I know it's crazy... I may need therapy, but, the guys I've dated I have always put my all into. I've never wanted to have any other type of a relationship other than the type that he loves you and you love him and you are both happy to be with each other and have conversations. When I decide to relinquish my heart, I don't go into it half-heartedly. There have been a couple of times that I've gotten re-acquainted with an EX (usually, yes, they break my heart) but we get to talking and remember why we were so compatible originally and a few months pass, then poof, he's gone again, just as quickly as he came back. And no it's not what you.. (not just for sex) I'm a therapists dream, probably.
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