Wes Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 Hey everyone. I'm 22 and I've had two serious girlfriends over the last three years, so I'd say I've only been single for about two weeks total since I was 18. Since my last gf broke up with me, which was about two months ago, I've been lost since I haven't been single much during my short adulthood. I'm now completely over my ex and I'm ready to start dating again. Well, my best friend and I go into this local coffeeshop quite often, and about three weeks ago, I saw this gorgeous cashier working there. I managed to make small talk with her and it turns out we have a lot in common. We go to the same college, enjoy the same obscure music, etc. The first time we talked, I kept it short and simple, and then went about my business. I didn't go back in until a week later, and she was there again. We made small talk once again and formally introduced ourselves. We talked for several minutes, and I once again went about my business. I know that it's cashiers/waitresses' jobs to be friendly to customers, but something about this girl's actions seem more than friendly. Any time she walks by our table, she smiles or waves at me, and doesn't even acknowledge my friend. I don't see her doing this with anyone else in the place. I've also caught her looking at me a few times, and she just smiles. But who knows, I'm not sure....I'm hoping she's into me. She's also talked about us riding to school together (which I'm thinking was a joke) and she wants us to introduce new music to each other. Well, we went back in this past Friday, and I had a mixed drink while I waited on my food. By the time she brought my food out, my drink was gone, and she offered me another one, on her. So I took it. She had told me earlier in the night that she was pretty sick, so I told her I had something that would make her feel better: a CD full of awesome music. She got excited and came out to my car with me to get it. We talked out there for a couple of minutes and she said "You should stop by and see me tomorrow." I told her that I hoped she started feeling better, and we said goodnight. So I went back in the next night, and she wasn't there. I asked about her, and they said she had called in sick, so I wasn't upset or anything. I know, I know...I should have asked for her number by now, but I have a horrible habit of waiting for the perfect moment to arise, instead of making the perfect moment happen. I'm pretty sure she worked tonight, but I didn't want to go in there three nights in a row, and I definitely don't want to be stalkerish, which is why I've only been in there about four times in the last three weeks. I could easily go in there every night and see her, but I don't. I've wanted to do this over time, and I think my time is almost up. I just do NOT want to get stuck in the friends zone. Another problem of mine is that I've never had much confidence when it comes to getting a number. I can talk to a girl and have her laughing and smiling for hours, but I can never ask for her number. I think it's because I can never distinguish interest from friendliness. Also, I would say I'm just an average looking guy, and this girl is like a 10. I kinda feel like I'm outta my league on this one. From talking to her, I've gathered that she's more of an outdoors type person, which I think is awesome, so I think the next time I go in, I'll ask her specifically what she's into, and say "Oh that's cool, I do that all the time" or "I've never done that, but it sounds like fun" (I'll be truthful) and then end it with "we should do that sometime...let me get your number and we can get together and do that soon." How does that sound?? I guess I just need some encouragement. My self-confidence isn't very high at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 Hey everyone. I'm 22 and I've had two serious girlfriends over the last three years, so I'd say I've only been single for about two weeks total since I was 18. Since my last gf broke up with me, which was about two months ago, I've been lost since I haven't been single much during my short adulthood. I'm now completely over my ex and I'm ready to start dating again. Well, my best friend and I go into this local coffeeshop quite often, and about three weeks ago, I saw this gorgeous cashier working there. I managed to make small talk with her and it turns out we have a lot in common. We go to the same college, enjoy the same obscure music, etc. The first time we talked, I kept it short and simple, and then went about my business. I didn't go back in until a week later, and she was there again. We made small talk once again and formally introduced ourselves. We talked for several minutes, and I once again went about my business. I know that it's cashiers/waitresses' jobs to be friendly to customers, but something about this girl's actions seem more than friendly. Any time she walks by our table, she smiles or waves at me, and doesn't even acknowledge my friend. I don't see her doing this with anyone else in the place. I've also caught her looking at me a few times, and she just smiles. But who knows, I'm not sure....I'm hoping she's into me. She's also talked about us riding to school together (which I'm thinking was a joke) and she wants us to introduce new music to each other. Well, we went back in this past Friday, and I had a mixed drink while I waited on my food. By the time she brought my food out, my drink was gone, and she offered me another one, on her. So I took it. She had told me earlier in the night that she was pretty sick, so I told her I had something that would make her feel better: a CD full of awesome music. She got excited and came out to my car with me to get it. We talked out there for a couple of minutes and she said "You should stop by and see me tomorrow." I told her that I hoped she started feeling better, and we said goodnight. So I went back in the next night, and she wasn't there. I asked about her, and they said she had called in sick, so I wasn't upset or anything. I know, I know...I should have asked for her number by now, but I have a horrible habit of waiting for the perfect moment to arise, instead of making the perfect moment happen. I'm pretty sure she worked tonight, but I didn't want to go in there three nights in a row, and I definitely don't want to be stalkerish, which is why I've only been in there about four times in the last three weeks. I could easily go in there every night and see her, but I don't. I've wanted to do this over time, and I think my time is almost up. I just do NOT want to get stuck in the friends zone. Another problem of mine is that I've never had much confidence when it comes to getting a number. I can talk to a girl and have her laughing and smiling for hours, but I can never ask for her number. I think it's because I can never distinguish interest from friendliness. Also, I would say I'm just an average looking guy, and this girl is like a 10. I kinda feel like I'm outta my league on this one. From talking to her, I've gathered that she's more of an outdoors type person, which I think is awesome, so I think the next time I go in, I'll ask her specifically what she's into, and say "Oh that's cool, I do that all the time" or "I've never done that, but it sounds like fun" (I'll be truthful) and then end it with "we should do that sometime...let me get your number and we can get together and do that soon." How does that sound?? I guess I just need some encouragement. My self-confidence isn't very high at the moment. Dude, don't waste another second. She likes you. Just go in there and ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat, or come up with another plan that you know she would enjoy. Time is a wastin my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wes Posted September 11, 2006 Author Share Posted September 11, 2006 Dude, don't waste another second. She likes you. Just go in there and ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat, or come up with another plan that you know she would enjoy. Time is a wastin my friend. Yeah man, I feel a sense of urgency. I have since the last time I talked to her, actually. They are closed tomorrow, but I plan on going in after work Tuesday night. Hopefully she'll be in there. If not, I guess I'll have to wait until Friday. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 Yeah man, I feel a sense of urgency. I have since the last time I talked to her, actually. They are closed tomorrow, but I plan on going in after work Tuesday night. Hopefully she'll be in there. If not, I guess I'll have to wait until Friday. The longer you wait, the more chances of her losing interest or assuming that you only want to be friends are. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wes Posted September 12, 2006 Author Share Posted September 12, 2006 The longer you wait, the more chances of her losing interest or assuming that you only want to be friends are. Good luck. Yeah this is true. There are only two reasons why I have spaced out my visits: 1. to not be stalkerish, and 2. in the hopes that maybe if I just go in once or twice a week, she'll look forward to the next time I go in. It seems like it's worked, but yeah, I'm definitely gonna go in there tomorrow night and get the number. Like I told my friend earlier today....if I go in there and she's there, I'm leaving with one of two things: her number, or the satisfaction of knowing that I at least tried. I'm not leaving with any regrets. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 my drink was gone, and she offered me another one, on her. No woman is going to spend money on a new guy if she is not interested. Get the digits before it's friendsville. Link to post Share on other sites
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