Are there some men who have difficulty saying the L word but still feel it?

[Guest]

I have a fantastic boyfriend. He cares about me, treats me like gold, ect. but has never said the L word to me. We've been together 6 months, not always physically because we are on opposite side of the world and I came back home to finish a course and he is working, but we talk on the web, web-cam and phone 3 times a day.

We spent 2 months together this summer as I came to him. At the airport before I had to leave to go thru security I felt I had to tell him I loved him as I'd never said it before either, so I mustered up the courage and told him. We both had tears in our eyes and when I said it he hugged me very tightly and cried more, then I left, waved and blew a kiss...

Later when I called him before boarding the plane he said, "It was nice to here what you said..." I was embarassed and kind of giggled.

 

Well, I just want your opinion on this. I think he loves me, but just can't express it verbally. What is your opinion?

I haven't said it since but in messenger I often send hearts and today after our chat he sent this animated thing with a girl drawing a heart with lipstick.

 

Is this a common thing with some men? Is it ok to coax it out of them or let them say it in their own time?

[Guest]

Can someone please give feedback? THanks

[stillhere]

Some men find it very difficult to say "I love you" and will only do so when they are good and ready.

 

I think he has strong feelings for you, but may not be ready to say it. Give him time, he may think 6 months is too soon. He probably wants to be 100% sure about his feelings before he lets those words cross his lips.

 

When he does say it, you'll know that he has meant it.

[norajane]

I agree with stillhere. It sounds like his actions speak louder than words, so don't worry about it and give him a chance to get comfortable with the word.

 

My SO and I have known each other for years, and have been seeing each other for about 2 years. He's said I love you exactly twice even though we talk about marriage.

[JamesM]

Some men find it very difficult to say "I love you" and will only do so when they are good and ready.

 

I think he has strong feelings for you, but may not be ready to say it. Give him time, he may think 6 months is too soon. He probably wants to be 100% sure about his feelings before he lets those words cross his lips.

 

When he does say it, you'll know that he has meant it.

 

THAT is exactly what I wanted to say. When I dated women, I never told any of them "I love you" until I met my wife, and that took about four to six months (I don't remember when...but I bet my wife does). Even when things got hot and heavy with a woman, I held back until it meant more than lust. For some odd reason, I wanted to say it only when I felt like I met the one that I wanted/chose to love for the rest of my life. Even if the relationship didn't work out, at least I said it because I meant it.

 

Oddly enough, the relationship did work out, and I have never stopped loving her.