whattothink Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 One of my co-workers set me up with her step-son. I went out for a drink with him last night and just curious about him. I'm in an area that I'm not planning on sticking around too long, but wonder if he would be interested in anything kind serious. He is 30, never married, his step-mom says he's never had a lot of girlfriends, and he doesn't even want a dog because it means responsibility. I almost think he was saying this for me to know he's not into serious dating or marriage. He seemed to be attracted to me. At the end of the night, he simply said that he'd call me sometime. Is there any 30 years olds (or thereabouts) that have any comments about this??? I don't really want to get hitched anytime soon, but would like to have someone that wants more than a one night stand.
moman Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Sure, I'll bite. Being 30 and a bachelor who doesn't want responsibility isn't anything to worry about from your perspective. I am getting close to 30 and while I tell everyone that I don't want responsibility, if I met the right girl that I liked I would be more than happy to be responsible. Basically you have seen his 'game face'. Give him a chance and see what happens.
Sand&Water Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Whattothink, Listen to moman's words. Giving someone the opportunity to interact, and build a common ground with you. You, certainly, can't pin point your future husband at first glance. Make sure you do clarify yourself, and not withhold certain behaviours due to his lack of responsibility.
BentSpine Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I fit his description quite well. Actually, I think he is being responsible. He is aware of the work it takes to care for a dog. That means that he thinks of the consequences of his actions. Perhaps he, like me, does not see the payoff with having a dog. I do not want to get married either but I feel being exclusive with someone, a companion, would be great. If a relationship does not become long term, that's OK as well. If there was something in it for me, then I would not regret the short relationship.
Author whattothink Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 Thanks, you guys are always great! I'm not really looking to get married anytime soon, but if I found myself interested in him, I didn't want to be in it for nothing (even if that sounds bad). Have a fabulous week! ~whattothink
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