Kittiecat Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I probably should just let this go but I can't. Look, take it from someone who has been on the receiving end of a woman like this -- never tell someone that you love them if you don't!! It's taken me almost a year, and I still hurt. This isn't a game. People get "messed up" for a long time over stuff like this. I'm sorry, Kittiecat, but this had to be said. Please choose your words carefully. I'm pretty sure he didn't mean it when he said it to me, either. I had to trick him into using the words one drunken evening. He would have never said it otherwise.
Jaded-Arie Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I admit I still do. I always wish she'd pull her head out of her ass and make an effort. I never stopped thinking we belong together. I just wish she wasn't so scared and scarred. I'd gladly build a life with her. Ditto! I still feel that my ex and I are destined to be together, he said so too. But there are some issues, from my side *blush*
Touche Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 Ditto! I still feel that my ex and I are destined to be together, he said so too. But there are some issues, from my side *blush* You'd "gladly" build a life with your guy too, Jaded? Ha! PUHLEEZE! That sounds like you're doing the other person a FAVOR. You should want to build a life with them because you don't think you can ever live without them. Now that may not turn out to be the case, but if you want to get married because you'd "gladly build a life" with someone, them maybe you should spare them that.
johan Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 ...but if you want to get married because you'd "gladly build a life" with someone, them maybe you should spare them that. You should try not to take things quite so literally. This isn't about semantics.
Touche Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 You should try not to take things quite so literally. This isn't about semantics. STFU. No, it's not about semantics BUT a person's words reveal a LOT about their arrogance...err..I mean what's in their heart.
Stardust06 Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I was the dumper the first time. He came back months later - only to suck me in and dump me out of retaliation for dumping him. I didn't care and went with it - then, 8 months later he came back - wanting to be friends, etc. By then he had done too many things that repulsed me and I was too disgusted to even remain friends. My fault for going back the first time. Let me be an example to all of you who make attempts at second chances - you're just prolonging the agony, it never works!
johan Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 STFU. No, it's not about semantics BUT a person's words reveal a LOT about their arrogance...err..I mean what's in their heart. You STFU! How's that for arrogance?
Touche Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 You STFU! How's that for arrogance? Guess I've been told!
Jaded-Arie Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 STFU. No, it's not about semantics BUT a person's words reveal a LOT about their arrogance...err..I mean what's in their heart. Touche, call it arrogance, call it whatever but the only person I can never live without is me. 'Cause I'd be dead. I would gladly build a life with my ex if he would let me.
Author loveinlife Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 I think I will always love my ex and always but it doesn't stop me meeting another woman. My hope would be to find love again.
In Sync Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 If it was a relationship that lasted for a few years, I don't think it's abnormal to still have feelings for someone even after a year. The feelings just gradually die away, until eventually the memory that they were once a big part of your life feels slightly surreal. Like thinking back to an event and questioning whether it actually happened or if it was just part of a strange dream you once had. Great observation...I can relate to this one! It's been a year and I can't believe I was in such a state. I am now convinced that a major part of my suffering and hurt I went through was me picking the wounds of a scab, nd reliving the hurt over and over in my mind. Strangely enough I labeled all that pain as love. I am soooooo far removed from that person and that distorted notion of love. Now I know that Love feels good and tingly and giggly and bubbly and makes your toes curl and none of that comes to mind when I think of the ex. surreal is the word because I'm amazed at this new state and contentment yet I was convince in all the misery I was in love.
Guest Posted September 12, 2006 Posted September 12, 2006 Even a year from now, I still have feelings for my ex. I still love this woman, eventhough she is with someone else. Sometimes I wonder will I completely get over this love for her. I dunno. I feel like if you love someone you will never get over them, at this moment. Any answers to this dilema? How do you guys/girls feel about your ex? Egads....is this what I have to look forward to? It has been 4 months and the hurt is still there. Although it has gotten easier I still get haunted constantly by all of these reminders everywhere I go. It also doesnt help due to the fact that we live less than 2 miles apart either. Within time.....I will conquer this.
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