j_20062006 Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 i am in love with my wife's younger sister. i got married when i was in my early 20s and wife a few years younger, mostly due to our parents pushing us. It was NOT a shotgun wedding, just something that both of our parents hurried us into. She was in love with me and it seemed like a great idea. So we got married and now a few years later... My wife is pretty, though a bit on the heavier side now. I am pretty fit and do well (career-wise). She loves me and takes good care of me, but we really do not have much in common (things to talk about, interests, things we like to do, etc.) and so its a very routine life without much interaction with each other. Sex life is so/so, just uninspired. The first time I met her sister was after getting engaged and then married. She is a few years younger then my wife and I feel like we have a super bond. Though she is not as pretty as my wife, the sister is still very "hot" and we can talk for hours upon hours. I stay up until 4 or 5 in the morning talking with her. We have almost everything in common from music tastes, to things to do, to books we like. She is extremely supportive of me and my dreams even more than my wife. I cannot help but feel like I married the wrong person. The sister-in-law thinks of me as a brother only, but I know it would not be so if I was not married to her sister. I know deep down she probably would be attracted to me, but she loves her sister too much and would never do anything to betray her. I have not done anything to pursue this, though even during the night I only think about the sister in law. She is on my mind 24/7, its been like this for four years now and it is really starting to take a toll on me emotionally. I know that if I were to do anything it would tear them apart and hurt my wife and in the end only I would lose, but what am I to do? I feel like my soulmate is the sister and i can never be with her.
Road Rage Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 Bear in mind that a good conversationalist can talk for hours to anybody about anything. You sis-in-law may be an excellent conversationalist, feel totally comfortable with you because you are family and have no attraction to you whatsoever.
Roo Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 we can talk for hours upon hours. I stay up until 4 or 5 in the morning talking with her. We have almost everything in common from music tastes, to things to do, to books we like. She is extremely supportive of me and my dreams even more than my wife. I cannot help but feel like I married the wrong person. Sounds to me like it's not so much that you in fact married the wrong person, but are treating the wrong person like you should be treating your wife. Your wife should be the one you talk to and confide in your best friend. Perhaps if you were more of a FRIEND to your wife she'd be more able to be supportive of you. My wife is pretty, though a bit on the heavier side now. I am pretty fit and do well (career-wise). She loves me and takes good care of me, but we really do not have much in common (things to talk about, interests, things we like to do, etc.) and so its a very routine life without much interaction with each other. Sex life is so/so, just uninspired. so are you saying that her physical appearance is important, is there any particular reason she's put on weight? It must not be a boost to her self esteem that you seem to think you are better than she is (she is not fit you are?) I can imagine why your sex-life is uninspired.
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