missy77 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 So this guy I've only been seeing for 2 weeks turned out to be a major jerk. He was lieing, dominating, controling, and very inconsiderated. We got into a really bad fight last night on the phone, and he said some TERRIBLE things to me. He had been drinking too. I told him not to call me anymore, he seemed very shocked that I told him that, and then he hung up on me. This morning he calls, I didn't answer the phone I just let the machine get it. Oh well. I'm disappointed because I really did like him but he kept trying to call all the shots, and never took me into consideration. Why do you think he called me this morning? After I told him not to call me anymore, and after the MAJOR fight we got into last night on the phone.
Island Girl Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 He personality and the way he was in your relationship give me the impression that he doesn't think you make your own choices, he makes them for you. So he is going to try to make you talk to him and make you be with him - whether he is going to try sucking up or whatever his tactics will be remains to be seen. I'd stay away from him. FAR away. It has only been 2 weeks and you have seen some horrible behavior. These are the kind of guys that go psycho and stalk you or worse. If he get fanatical keep other people around you as much as possible til he gets the point.
johan Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 He called because he didn't think you really meant it. He thought you might be trying to manipulate him somehow, acting out and saying things you don't really mean in order to get what you want. He may not really believe you don't dig him, because he has a high opinion of himself and thinks he can do or say what he wants and you'll still want him.
Sally00 Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 According to what happened, I assume he tried calling you to say sorry?? Did he end up leaving a message? Atleast it's ONLY been 2 weeks. You should be glad it hasn't been months or years. It'll be easier to get over since it's been a couple weeks.
alphamale Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 wow! he's such a big a-hole.....you'll be back with him in no time. women love men like him.
Pyro Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 wow! he's such a big a-hole.....you'll be back with him in no time. women love men like him. Please. I'm sorry this happened to you Missy, but at least it was only a couple of weeks and not months before you saw the real him. I guess that your friends were right about him. Write this one off and better luck next time.
Author missy77 Posted September 10, 2006 Author Posted September 10, 2006 Thanks you guys. Wish things had not turned out the way they did. He called me yesterday, but hasn't called today. Guess he will not bother anymore to call me. Do you guys think he will call me?
Author missy77 Posted September 10, 2006 Author Posted September 10, 2006 According to what happened, I assume he tried calling you to say sorry?? Did he end up leaving a message? Atleast it's ONLY been 2 weeks. You should be glad it hasn't been months or years. It'll be easier to get over since it's been a couple weeks. I'm not sure he called to apologize or not, all he said in his message was to give him a call. And that was yesterday, he hasn't called today, nor have I called him.
Touche Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 I don't get why you even care if he calls you again or not..is it an ego thing? Personally, I would be praying that he never calls me again. If he's like that now, how do you think he'd be down the line after you have more time invested in this jerk. I used to dump idiots like this without batting an eye. Hold out for the BEST! Don't waste time with a loser like this.
Author missy77 Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 I don't get why you even care if he calls you again or not..is it an ego thing? Personally, I would be praying that he never calls me again. If he's like that now, how do you think he'd be down the line after you have more time invested in this jerk. I used to dump idiots like this without batting an eye. Hold out for the BEST! Don't waste time with a loser like this. I don't care if he ever calls again. I just thought it was kinda weird he would call yesterday, and not try to talk to me today. Oh well, I'm so glad I found out what kind of guy he is, before I invested more time in him. I must admit I am disappointed, I wish things would have worked out. Oh well, where one door closes, another one opens. I hope he doesn't call me again, and I know I'll never call him.
Touche Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I don't care if he ever calls again. I just thought it was kinda weird he would call yesterday, and not try to talk to me today. Oh well, I'm so glad I found out what kind of guy he is, before I invested more time in him. I must admit I am disappointed, I wish things would have worked out. Oh well, where one door closes, another one opens. I hope he doesn't call me again, and I know I'll never call him. Good for you! And the reason he probably ddn't try again is he realized that he was wrong and that you're not like the others who always came crawling back to these "bad boys." You're a cut above the rest! Congratulations! I crown thee a Goddess and absolutely NOT a doormat!
Author missy77 Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 Good for you! And the reason he probably ddn't try again is he realized that he was wrong and that you're not like the others who always came crawling back to these "bad boys." You're a cut above the rest! Congratulations! I crown thee a Goddess and absolutely NOT a doormat! Thanks.
Author missy77 Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 Update! He hasn't called since Saturday, I figure he's given up on calling me. Which is good. But still a part of me wishes it would have worked out.
Author missy77 Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 So, I get home from work today, check my messages, and to my surprise I have a phone call from him. I told him not to call me anymore, why does he keep calling me. In his message he said "I'm sorry, please give me another chance, I'll call you later"
Guest Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 I can't believe you're actually considering taking him back. You said in your post that he turned out to be a jerk, and listed all of the horrible things he does...you've only been together 2 weeks and already you're fighting and pointing out all his bad qualities. Don't you want to be with your best friend? This guy sounds like a creep. Your whole post was, in a nutshell "He's horrible, controlling, we fight, I broke up with him...do you think he'll call?" You might want to find out why you're dying to get back into an unhealthy situation and unhealthy relationship that will only get worse.
Sand&Water Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 Missy77, The real question is: Are you going to call him? Obviously, the only two reasons, as to why you'd want to re-initiate contact with him are: (A) You're too nice. You can't reject him. (B) You, and him have an intense physical attraction, and chemistry that can't be thrown away. Mind boggling what women do for love!
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