jju Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 This is new to me so bare with me. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7yrs this coming jan. I found out about a week ago he's been cheating on me for 5 of those years together. he says he broke it off because he now knows he wants to be with me and marry me and start a new life together. i'm hurt and heartbroken & dont know where to turn. i saw this site & thought..hey it couldnt hurt to get someone elses perspective on the issue...please be nice..the wounds are still very deep..
britchick Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 Most of the time when I read a thread about cheating I say get counselling etc, but he has cheated on you for most of your relationship. If I were you I'd be packing his bags. Did you find out or did he tell you?
Author jju Posted September 10, 2006 Author Posted September 10, 2006 i found out a little of both..i caught him on the phone and he says he was ending things with her then. so i don't know what to believe. i want to believe the man i've shared most of my adult with is going to change but i'ts so hard to believe that.
britchick Posted September 13, 2006 Posted September 13, 2006 Thats quite a convenient excuse. Even if its true, most of your relationship is based on lies. If he can lie to you for this long, what sort of person is he? This is your decision obviously and it seems that you don't want to lose him - if thats the case then he needs to be completely open with you. How about trying to talk to the OW and finding out her side of things, I wonder if she knows that they have broken up?
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