Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, I live with him. We have started to make plans to get married next July, but no official ring yet. I do really love him but about a year ago at work we hired a new firm to do some sub work for us, and they assigned a guy to our business. I have over the past year gotten to really know him, like a good friend, and sure we get flirty but all harmless. It just so happens that his is also in a 6 year relationship with a girl. They are both older than me and my boyfriend. Well it started as a fun work thing to go to Happy hour and then it became every happy hour he sits by me we get all flirty no kissing or anything we both knew that we liked each other but never made a big deal out of it and never talked about it. Well last night we had another fun happy hour but he invited some of his nonwork friends as did I, and I got the drift that something was going to happen because he was extra touchy last night. Well out of the blue his friend asked me to meet my crush back at the bathroom, Which I did. All of the sudden i was pulled close and I think he was gong to swoop in for the kiss but I naturally panicked and started to fidget and he gave me this speech where he has never done this before and just wants to have fun that kind of a thing. I am flattered and believe me I was on the exact same page as he was because if I didn't have a boyfriend and he didn’t have a girlfriend I would have totally received the kiss. But I am terrified of change so I immediately start thinking of the future... like ok fun is fun but what if it turns into something more serious how and am I willing to break off my now comfortable 6 year relationship to take the risk all over again. There are sooo many great things about him but there are a lot of things that I am just not sure I would want in a relationship with him. So he actually took rejection very well! It became a little of a secrete joke all night will us that I had dissed him. I am really confused because take my crush out of the picture and what if this is just a sign that im not really ready to get married. I do love my boyfriend and I would be so hurt if I knew he was even feeling the way i felt about my crush. My other problem is I have always pushed him to get married and now that we have booked a hall and everything I have been pushing about the ring! How can I be the one to say I don't think im ready and then oh now I like someone else but hey who the hell knows if it will work out and I will be alone in the end! Someone please help me I like my crush a lot! but I want to be his friend AND What about the marriage thing. My boyfriend has absolutely not clue I fee this way.
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