Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 So automatically a lot of material things go out the window. His b'day is coming up in a few weeks and I don't know what to get. What are some of the things that the OW here have gotten their men for gifts?
scaredinlove Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 So automatically a lot of material things go out the window. His b'day is coming up in a few weeks and I don't know what to get. What are some of the things that the OW here have gotten their men for gifts? That is my dillema,it is tough because you don't want to give him something his W will notice.Last time I gave my MM a very nice pen because he likes it and he could always say he bought it himself. Those are though dates for me too, valentimes, christimas and Birthday.
Touche Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 This is just sad. Why do you need to give them ANYTHING? Don't they have enough with a spouse and a little on the side? Why don't you give them the gift of removing yourselves from their lives? That would be the best gift of all!
Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 This is just sad. Why do you need to give them ANYTHING? Don't they have enough with a spouse and a little on the side? Why don't you give them the gift of removing yourselves from their lives? That would be the best gift of all! That was a little harsh. I got my MM a book that I knew he would enjoy. I have also gotten him cd's, things for his office, etc. that the wife would not really notice. I got him a nice shirt one time but I knew it was a problem for him to take it home...he had to make up a bogus story and caused him more trouble than it was worth. Very hard to buy anything significant. Just give him something from your heart, doesn't have to be much.
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I'm not sure what you should get him What is the wife getting him, maybe she can clue you in on some ideas hahah I had to make a joke sorry if that was insensitive!!!!
CrushedOrgans Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 present him with two gift certificates, one for marriage counseling, one for a divorce consultation. tell him he can only choose one, and that they expire in 24 hours.
Adunaphel Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Don't give him anything that they should hide, or throw in the trash can, or could not use/wear because it would make their Ws suspicious. Treat him to dinner, take him to someplace he might like, or buy some special wine or food that you can drink/eat together. That is, if you really feel like giving him a gift.
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 present him with two gift certificates, one for marriage counseling, one for a divorce consultation. tell him he can only choose one, and that they expire in 24 hours. ha haha I new this thread would have jokes pop up, it was bound too!
CrushedOrgans Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 ha haha I new this thread would have jokes pop up, it was bound too! well...it was kind of a half-joke, i suppose...
Adunaphel Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 present him with two gift certificates, one for marriage counseling, one for a divorce consultation. tell him he can only choose one, and that they expire in 24 hours. CrushedOrgans is right though. Joke or no joke, it would be an extremely good present.
BenThereDunThat Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 present him with two gift certificates, one for marriage counseling, one for a divorce consultation. tell him he can only choose one, and that they expire in 24 hours. Great answer!! I was going to say "a big ol' box of nothin'!" For those of you who think we're being harsh, I predict it won't be long before you're back here and going through the same stages 99.9% of all OW's go through. And probably someone will post a similar question and you'll respond just as we have! I don't mean that as a dig, I went through it. I ended up going through some really hard times getting away from him. Trust me, you may not see it now, but this is exactly where you're headed. Unless you're in the 0.0000001% whose OW's MM's actually leave their W's to start a new life with the OW. 1
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 When I am giving adivice to OW I always have it in the back of my head, pshh what am I talking about I know if I was in the situation I would come here and post away the same threads OW do I just hope to god I never get in a situation so sticky and deadly. Than all the advice I have given will only make me a hypocrit !!! nooooooooooo. So don't ever think no one thinks like that. I've always looked at life as well you don't understand it until your in it and than when your in it your just as likely to make the same decisions as what you were against.
norajane Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Hmm, seems to me he already has everything he wants, his wife and marriage and some nookie on the side. Since that's what he wants from you, why not give him some extra-special nookie?
Touche Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Hmm, seems to me he already has everything he wants, his wife and marriage and some nookie on the side. Since that's what he wants from you, why not give him some extra-special nookie? NJ!!! Tell me you didn't really just say that!
norajane Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 NJ!!! Tell me you didn't really just say that! I know, I know, I should be ashamed of myself!
Touche Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I know, I know, I should be ashamed of myself! Bad girl! You're slipping!
Ladyjane14 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I remember an earlier thread here at LS on buying gifts for MM. The OW had bought the MM underwear and/or shirts, which he'd managed to pass off at home somehow. It seemed to amuse her that his wife was at home washing them, along with the rest of his laundry.
IngenueMisnomer Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I remember an earlier thread here at LS on buying gifts for MM. The OW had bought the MM underwear and/or shirts, which he'd managed to pass off at home somehow. It seemed to amuse her that his wife was at home washing them, along with the rest of his laundry. LOL...that's pretty funny Ladyjane. Atleast she managed to gain some amusement out of a difficult situation.
Guest Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 So automatically a lot of material things go out the window. His b'day is coming up in a few weeks and I don't know what to get. What are some of the things that the OW here have gotten their men for gifts? I've given my MM a tie, a book, chocolate, monogramed keychain, wine, a calendar and silly trinkets for his desk at work. I find it very easy to buy for him! His gifts to me are usually very simlar - lingerie, books, my favorite chocolates, entertainment/movie gift certificates, CDs, earings, basically anything you can buy for someone. We try and keep our exchanges within reason, pricewise. If one of us goes away on business we usually bring back a little something for each other, it's the silly things we exchange that mean the most.
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