girlygirl1976 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Well, yeah, I admit this was a slighty sarcastic remark intended to make some people think, but yeah I think it's a pretty cool idea too. Talk about convienient! It's really more a case for open marriages and the open communication that needs to go with it. Personally, I would be much more hurt by the lies involved in a typical affair than the sex itself. As a chic, who has been on both sides of the fence and currently more than friends with a MM... It really works out well for all of us. The pressure to maintain a relationship when your with someone 24/7 is gone. It's helped them immensily and it works great for me too. I can't help but be happy for him when things are going good at home. The down side... there are kids involved on both sides so things are kept very discrete.
RecordProducer Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 It is. Today it's called "dating"It is, but it's called "cheating."
scaredinlove Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Well, yeah, I admit this was a slighty sarcastic remark intended to make some people think, but yeah I think it's a pretty cool idea too. Talk about convienient! If poligamy was legal and well accepted my problems would be over. I could stay with my H for the kids and my MM for the love and he could stay with his wife for wherever reasons he has.We could be a big happy family.
Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Then why settle for sharing just one man, when you can now have many. Truth is, I don't think any woman wants to knowingly share a man - unless she is also being shared with another man and the first man knows about it.
superconductor Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Polygamy legal? Migawd... I can't imagine being married to more than one self-entitled nagging woman at a time...
yousaveme Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Well, yeah, I admit this was a slighty sarcastic remark intended to make some people think, but yeah I think it's a pretty cool idea too. Talk about convienient! If poligamy was legal and well accepted my problems would be over. I could stay with my H for the kids and my MM for the love and he could stay with his wife for wherever reasons he has.We could be a big happy family. If it was legal...As much as i love my MM I couldnt do it. Yes it would make things easier but I couldnt do it. I do share well..I guess ( i know im sharing being involved with a MM) - doesnt mean like the situtation. Hard very hard
Moose Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 There's one of those law show episodes where this rich couple's husband had an affair. His wife stayed with him for the money, and accepted the fact he was seeing someone on the side. Wound up, the mistress had gotten preagnant, but to save his good name, the mistress and his wife agreed together to keep it secret. She has a daughter, the rich couple has a son just a couple years before. 19 years later, the son and daughter wind up together, and the daughter gets preagnant by the son. In discust, the father kills the daughter, then kills himself.....or something like that..... I don't know if polygamy being ok in society's eyes would make anything easier or not......I think there are good reasons why it isn't.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 there is such a thing called polyamory. you just wouldn't have marriage involved with more than one other person. keep in mind though, it wouldn't necessarily be 'easier', you would just be getting what you what.
Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I think open marriages can be a good thing. Our western culture was largely based on christian ideals so we are made to feel that it's taboo but people are quite capable of loving more than one person. If a couple agrees to it and it works for all involved, I say good for them. Sure beats the heck out of cheating.
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I might be too young to think about this, but being single gives me more of an idea of " pologamy ". I think everyone is shocked by swingers, but don't realize half the population cheats and if people were swingers than both parties who will atleast once think of infidelity can be open with eachother and other people. If I fell in love for the second time which will happen later on, I'm not sure I would have the feelings of sharing somebody I loved with someone else. I think in the future after the spark of a loved one is gone than it will come to mind more? lol bad but People base alot of there lives on the moment of love, yet when the future kicks in things change. I don't look down on people who share different partners if it benifits them in their relationship who am I to care? I think some girls and guys think its a crazy thought but yes I do consider that dating. Just one person your dating could have the wrong impression of your relationship and be ticked if you were to fool around with someone else.
Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Even though I am an OW there is no way I could accept polygamy or an open relationship. I've thought about what I'd do if the W found out about us and accepted it for whatever reason. I know for sure that I would definitely want no part of that. It's hard enough having to be in this situation, knowingly sharing someone else's spouse and I could not fathom being in an open relationship. I know it's delusional of me but I try never to think of him as being a MM. That's why we absolutely do not discuss his W or M. He's not allowed to even make any references to them. The downside of this is whenever I incidentally come across a reminder that he's a MM it hits me like a lightning bolt and takes me a while to recover.
Author girlygirl1976 Posted September 10, 2006 Author Posted September 10, 2006 I wouldn't call it cheating...the point is that everyone knows and is willing to accept that. He's always been very repectful of her and she brought the situation up. They were to a point where they didn't share any common interests. Sometime life changes and you can't fufill your partners (not neccesarily sexual) needs. That stress weighs heavily on everyone and it gets worse before it gets better. We don't live in the same house or even nearby. We are simply considered a "friend of the family" as far as the public and family are involved. There are no secrets between us but there are little rules invloved. For example, I'm kind of anal when it comes to finances and prefer we don't spend money on each other except for mileage or with her approval (birthday gifts come to mind). I have no involvement in their financial undertakings but realize that his first commitment is to provide for his family and we are in similar, somewhat comfortable financial situations. When I was married I was in a similar situation and it worked well then also. There are small sacrafices that every one has to make in any relationship and this, to me, is a very small and manageable one. I think I have the good end of it and she thinks she does and between us both were pretty sure he has the best of both worlds. Maybe what makes it easier is that we all realize it's not about giving 50/50 but everyone being willing to give 100/100/100.
silktricks Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 I wouldn't call it cheating...the point is that everyone knows and is willing to accept that. He's always been very repectful of her and she brought the situation up. They were to a point where they didn't share any common interests. Sometime life changes and you can't fufill your partners (not neccesarily sexual) needs. That stress weighs heavily on everyone and it gets worse before it gets better. We don't live in the same house or even nearby. We are simply considered a "friend of the family" as far as the public and family are involved. There are no secrets between us but there are little rules invloved. For example, I'm kind of anal when it comes to finances and prefer we don't spend money on each other except for mileage or with her approval (birthday gifts come to mind). I have no involvement in their financial undertakings but realize that his first commitment is to provide for his family and we are in similar, somewhat comfortable financial situations. When I was married I was in a similar situation and it worked well then also. There are small sacrafices that every one has to make in any relationship and this, to me, is a very small and manageable one. I think I have the good end of it and she thinks she does and between us both were pretty sure he has the best of both worlds. Maybe what makes it easier is that we all realize it's not about giving 50/50 but everyone being willing to give 100/100/100. If things are working well for all of you, everyone is honest and all are happy, I say more power to you. It absolutely would not work for me though. I don't share well.
NoIDidn't Posted September 10, 2006 Posted September 10, 2006 If things are working well for all of you, everyone is honest and all are happy, I say more power to you. It absolutely would not work for me though. I don't share well. Yeah Silk. I think the thing about me would be said like this: Does not share easily and does not play well with others.
quankanne Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 hell, why bother marrying when you can just f*ck for free? As hokey says, it's called "dating." By staying single but playing the field, you're not tying up court time or costs with documentations of marriage and subsequent divorce; there's no legal obligation to anyone involved; everyone knows up front how it's going to be, provided that the free-screw play is laid out for all involved at the beginning of relationships. You also wouldn't be messing around with the minds (or lives) of children of a marriage because they wouldn't have any expectations of Mommy and Daddy as an entity.
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