Sally00 Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 Ok. You probably read my other post. But I'm just curious about what you all have to say... This isn't just a question about you... but perhaps anybody you know or heard about. - How long have you known your spouse and how long have you been together before you two got married? And how long have you been married for? How old were you? As for me, I have known a couple who knew each other for 9 years, dated 1 year, and got married. After 1 1/2 years, they're still together. Another couple who knew each other for like a month, dated 2 months, and got married. After 2 months, they're still together. And me... I've been friends with my boyfriend for over a year and we've been dating for over 7 months. We're not officially engaged, but plan on getting married after college (atleast 2 years from now).
quankanne Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 How long have you known your spouse 18 years come October How long (were) you been together before you married? about 4 years (long-distance relationship) How long have you married? 14 years How old were you? married at 26 (he was 39)
rainfall Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 How long have you known your spouse and how long have you been together before you two got married? And how long have you been married for? How old were you? By legal standards he is not my "spouse" but we never plan to get married so I guess that part doesn't matter. Knew him for a year before we got together. Been together for 6 years. Had a "talk" about getting married and whether or not we ever wanted to after about 3 or so years. I was 22 when we had that talk he was 25. I know a couple who got married after 2 months. Were together for 2 years when the wife died in a car accident. However they were probably one of the happiest married couples I ever met. they were 22 (wife) and 26 (husband) Another couple I know married after 7 years. They were together for two years and now they are divorced. So I don't think time together really factors in to how successful a relationship will be. I think it is more the people in it and willing they are to work together and compromise to help keep the other person happy.
RecordProducer Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 husband #1: good friends for 6.5 years, married for 3 years with lots of breakups... was bad from the start, I have two kids from that marriage (twins). husband #2: 1.5 years of long-distance intercontinental relationship, happily married for 9 months.
Touche Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Husband #1: 6 years and then married for 3. Husband #2: 8 months and have been marred for 11 years. So obviously I agree with Rainfall. How long you've known spouse before marriage is not a factor. In my case it wasn't anyway.
tikigods Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 we were dating for a little over a year when he purposed, two and a half years when we got married, and have been married close to 2 years now
Walk Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Ex Husband (ONLY ONE and hopefully will stay that way): Dated for 4 years. Engaged for nearly 2 years. Married for 3. Total length: Slightly less than 9 years together. It was ironic though, when I got engaged to him, I started hearing all these horror stories about couples who had been together for four years and then got married, who were ALL getting divorced 2 years after the marriage. Really scared me. Mine nosed dived at the two year mark too. I read a study once that said people who marry between 1 1/2-2 years of dating have the longest marriages. Not sure how accurate the study was.
allina Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I read a study once that said people who marry between 1 1/2-2 years of dating have the longest marriages. Not sure how accurate the study was. I've heard that too, but I don't remember where. My parents married after dating for a year, they have been happily married for almost 25 years now, mom was 22 and dad was 24 when they married.
Author Sally00 Posted September 9, 2006 Author Posted September 9, 2006 I read a study once that said people who marry between 1 1/2-2 years of dating have the longest marriages. Not sure how accurate the study was. That is very interesting... I hope someone can find the article about that because I would like to read it. And I guess that would make sense. Because if you've been with the person for like maybe 8 years or something beforehand, then it'd already seem like you're married to the person... especially if you live with them.
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