flexible christian Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 Ye...i started out my school year and i dont seem to be talking very much this year, theres alot of people and friends that i see and chill with but the main problem is i dont seem to interact with them. Such as when ever i get the chance to walk with them or see them i dont talk much and it bugs me, i want to talk and make good friend connections. More like i want to be the guy that can start conversations, and the guy people look forward on hanging out with. I'am working on traying to interact and talk but it seems to me i anoy when i talk (thats very common with alot of people) but i want to make a change for my self and conversate more when i hangout with them. I am making progress little by little but i just need to know what you guys think i should try out. I'll be please to hear the replies.
polynesiagirl Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I think first and foremost be yourself, don't ever try to be anybody else. Those real genuine people, I can spot them a mile off, and usually become my good friends. I like a person who is real. Try to find common grounds with people ie: common likes in music, books, movies. Once you find that common ground build upon that. When you see the person next time you have something to talk about. Have you joined any clubs, ones that you have interest in, thats a good way to meet people with common interests, once again, find the common grounds and then ask questions and provide suggestions. If both of you like movies then ask questions like did you see ,,,,movie, I think you should see this movie and explain why you like the movie, and even pick our certain scenes from the movie that stand out to you. Above all, to be a friend you have to be a friend, which sometimes means going out of your comfort zone, and there is the possibility of rejection. I also know that not all people I talk to are going to like me, sometimes because of personality clashes. I am an extrovert, a good conversationalists, and a friendly person, but I I don't mesh with some people. It could be because of cultural similarities or differences, language, different age. Its not a personal thing its just the way it is. Just be you, take risks, be respectful and if they don't give it back to you-respect, then they are not worth your time
norajane Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 The most charming people tend to be the ones who are genuinely interested in others, ask questions about them and their lives and interests, and LISTEN to the answers so they can respond. Looking into people's eyes when you talk also signals that you're paying attention to them and are interested in what they have to say (and makes them fell important ). A smile and "hey, it's good to see you" (or some other positive-type greeting) also helps to make them feel good and like they're important. It might sound superficial, but people like people who make them feel good about themselves.
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