alturrnababe Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I can't even believe I'm writing this, but it happened 2 weeks ago and it's STILL bothering me.My husbandx and I got into a stupid argument-and to make a long story short, I told him I was going to go and see his sister and visit with her while I was waiting for my son to finish football practice, as she has just bought a house near my son's school.My husband then promptly told me that she "didn't care" to talk to me and then he told me that she told him she thought I was crazy!.....WTF......I have never been particularly close to his family but that was just horrible to hear....Anyway a couple of days after the argument had blown over, I approached him about it again and he said she indeed did call me crazy-and then he said-"oh but she probably forgot she's said it by now, so you should still go over and see how her house reno's are doing".Well.That's not how things work for me...I don't even want to go to any family functions with her around anymore! My husbands brother lives with her and apparently he and his girlfriend were there when she said it. Does anyone think I'm over-reacting by having minimal contact with her? My husband seems to think I should forget about it, but I can't.
luvstarved Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 Well I think you have to consider what the circumstances were. WHy did she call you crazy? Did she say something meaning "I believe that your wife is clinically insane" or was it more in response to something you said or did that she disagreed with...like if you were going to do skydiving maybe she would have said "she's crazy". Or was it said because she was angry? Maybe your husband was bitching about something and said that you said this or that and then she said "she's crazy". I have referred to my SIL as crazy a few times I think, but not because I dislike her or think she is truly nuts. I said it around the time she was engaged in an affair I'm sure... But in fact I love my SIL and would hate to think that she would overreact to something I said in passing and relating only to a particular circumstance... So before you decide your future relationship with her, consider the context and ask yourself whether you might have said something similar if it was about a particular circumstance or was said in an emotional moment and not really meant as a prevailing judgment...
Jilly10340 Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I wouldn't start avoiding being around her and having minimal contact with her. When I saw her I would just be polite and make small talk, nothing major, and see how she reacts. I've had MANY arguments with my soon-to-be SIL and have called her a lot worse things than crazy, but you know what? I still love her, because she's family. It seems like you've never gotten the vibe that she hates your guts so I wouldn't worry about it. The only time I get uncomfortable is when I can sense that the other person doesn't want me there. Since you were planning on visiting her, it seems like you haven't gotten that impression. I would just act normal
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