skate03 Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 There is quite a woman that I am dating, we have been in this relationship of and on for over a year and a half. I have been divorced I guess since the beginning of August, I have 3 kids and she has 3. I moved out of state and she soon followed. I have done things in our relationship that have been crudy, I have sort of leaned on my ex-wife in the past, however I let that be and rely soley on my girlfriend for advice. Her husband has used her kids to appeal to her to take him back, he has never had the ability to keep a job for very long without being fired, his intiative is to find a job just to get by. Anyway the only way that she can have her kids is if she takes him back, I find this highly offensive and disgusting. She does not love him or want to be with him, the only reason she stays there is for the kids, however he does not know this, she has him believing that everything is fine. One last thing, she is pregnant with my child. I do feel that she is causing more of an issue with staying there instead of being honest. She left him once. Is it fair to her kids and him that he/they are being lead to believe that this is where she wants to be. She is depressed in the whole situation, however how do you approach this problem because he does not seem to get that she does not have feelings for him in the way that he does. This is a very difficult situation and is really gotten me down because I feel that I can't be involved in the whole child bearing experience, she is the love of my life and not that I discount my other rug rats (no way) this experience I have put a lot of heart into than with the one I had with the EX. I really need some assitance in this matter, maybe it will help me understand something. Thanks.
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