pureguava Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 [FONT=Verdana]I am in a huge delima. Me and this girl (who had 2 children already), got engaged quickly. She had been wishy-washy about commitment and made a few mistakes (cheating, but not sex.) I bought a mobile home for us to live in (it was cheaper than rent) and my best friend who ran the park put it in my name, just "in case." We have had our problems, on and off. We each said, "Don't do this" (a limit) and we each kept doing it for reasons as feeling no other option, etc. (no more cheating, though) Recently, she did soemthing she shouldn't have done and I did something I souldn't have done and she ended the relationship, yet again (it's happened more than 10 times.) Except this time it was over for her. She no longer cared for me the way she used to and didn't want to "Try and work on us" when she didn't care to be with me. Regrettibly, I understand not wanting to if you don't feel the same. Within a week she started dating someone, while we were still living together. That really hurts. She was a full time student with a part time job. She got help with student loans and grants. I had a full time sales job and made good money. I had ok (well, kinda ok credit) and she has excellent credit. We used her credit to get the things we wanted and mostly my income to pay for it. About 1 month before we broke up, I found an online opportunity and we used her credit to start it (about $1,500) I have been able to support us the same as before, but now staying at home. NOW THE ISSUE We have been talking about how to start physically seperating and have had some problems. We don't make enough money for either of us to live seperately, unless I get a job to pay for my own apartment. This completely sucks, because I have been working 12 years to finally NOT have a regular job. I asked my cousin (who is kind and not bitter), what I should do. He said I should give her 30 days to find a place to live and she needs to move. We aren't married. (I am more pissed at the supposed unconditional commitment of being engaged and promising to each other that even though we may feel different about each other sometimes, we owe it to the other person to try and resolve what is causing the unhappiness.) The only place she can go is her mother's, which is a BAD place for 2 children to grow up in. Now I don't know what to do. Everyday is a constant reminder of someone who gave up on me and the children I used to be a father to and something needs to change. But at whose expense? I honestly want to say, "It's not my problem now." She was living before me and I would take all the debt until she could repay it. She says life would be really stressfull if she had to start working more and had to move and she feels like this house is hers too. The house is with my credit. She also suggested I move back to [/FONT][FONT=Verdana]Dallas[/FONT][FONT=Verdana] and live with my parents, since it would be free. I feel like I don't owe her anything any more. "My heart changed and I can't control that" isn't an excuse for no consequences. Even if you didn't intend it. Any advice on the seperating situation would be greatly appreciated.[/FONT]
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