Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 I have a really great job that I love. In my company's building, is a bar everyone hangs out in. I met this guy Joe, 6 mos. ago...he's the bartender there. He's really cute, and sweet and nice. He never lets me or my friends pay for drinks. 5 mos. ago, I expressed an interest in him. He said he has a gf who was 9 years younger than him (he's 31). He said she was immature and he wasn't happy with her lately, so he didn't know how much longer it would last. The only thing is, he said he said he would never cheat on a girlfriend or any girlfriend for that matter. He'd rather it be over, before he started something new with someone else. I think they've been together 9 mos or so. Anyway, 4 mos. passed and I never brought it up again, though he would complain about his gf quite often. One day I went in, and he asked me for my number out of the blue...with a huge smile on his face. For the first time, he looked interested. For 4 mos., I assumed he wasn't interested in me and had a gf anyway. I said "You want my number...but you have a girlfriend?" He said "Not for much longer...it's not working out." It's been 1-1/2 mos. and he hasn't called. I saw him last night and said "Are you going to be single anytime soon...because I think you and I should at least try 1 date and see if there's anything there." He said "Oh...it's there and I know we'd have fun, but i haven't ended it yet...but soon. I promise, I will call you and we will go on that date, don't worry. I just need to sort and figure things out." I know he just graduated school last month, with a BS degree in PR (ironically, the same field as me). I even gave him 2 leads for a job (he was so happy)...yet he hasn't even sent his resume to them yet, so I just assume he has a lot on his mind. I don't know...do you think he's interested? Is his "sorting and figuring things out" just an excuse or is this how guys think...and do you think he really could be interested?
lalalala Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 dont waste your time for this guy. it may sound harsh, but he is not interested in you. If he asked your number, it may be he asked it for curiosity - sounded like a backup plan for me. if things really not working out with girlfriend , he will try to date you as a temporary replacement. It is not because he has feeling for you and maybe he wants something from you, for examp . your help, connection or whatever. obviously, he still loves the girlfriend. And why he told you all the bad things abt his gf, is to see/ get your attention and symphaty , And he wants to know how is your reaction. Because he likes the fact that you like him.
Sand&Water Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Guest, He sounds like a genuine guy. I say, take his word for it. He is been dating his girlfriend (soon to be ex-girlfriend) for 9 months. That is a long time. You can't expect him to jump from one phase of his life to the next, without a stable transition. Give him some time. He is getting his life together. I believe, he wants to step into the dating scene on a good foot.
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