silentcharon Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Hi guys, I started college a couple of days ago. Before I started, I was doing great- I went camping with a bunch of friends and didn't think about my ex at all. When I started school, I already have a pile of homework and everything- I have a lot of things I need to do, like getting my id and paying my tuition, etc. I feel a bit overwhelmed! It doesn't help that ... I planned on going to school and date my ex at the same time. I was really excited about that, thinking that I would go home after school and tell my ex everything about it. Instead, I come home to an empty house with no one to talk to about my school. 8 months ago, I would have never thought that I would be without my ex when I started school, but here I am. It's a bit depressing, really. I was wondering if this was normal at all. I don't want to feel alone, but I am, I was thinking about going down to students association and talk to someone, maybe see if I can volunteer for something. I can meet new people this way, it's difficult for me to make new friends, as I have to go out of my way than most people have to. I don't know. Ever since we broke up, I've been going out so much doing things, that it's strange, I suddenly feel alone. I was doing great and now this, I am not sure how to cope. Just wanted to vent a bit before I head out to school at 10. Thanks for listening.
swirly27 Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 How long have you and your ex been broken up? I would say this is very normal. You are doing all of the things that you can try and do to get past this and get over your ex. You're staying busy and going out with friends and now school will definitely keep you busy....but when you remember what your plans WERE, your ex will pop up and that is completely normal. I think it sounds great to go volunteer or join something that will get you to meet new people and get you involved in something new. Before you know it, your thoughts of your ex will get less and less and you'll have made new friends to occupy your time and you'll be happier with yourself as well.
Author silentcharon Posted September 9, 2006 Author Posted September 9, 2006 It's been a little over than 7 months now. A little more than two months ago when I forced nc on my ex. I dated him for nearly 7 years. Thanks for the encouraging words, I was just having a bad day and I felt very alone. It was a very sudden thing for me, I was doing very well up till that day. It was a very weird feeling. I'm glad I have school now to occupy my time, I hope I'll get to meet new people, though I felt a little out of place in my class. Most of the freshmen there are around 18, and I'm 22, they make me feel old, lol....
Brittanyjean06 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 7 months is not a long time at all. Man its been a year for me, and it still hurts me deeply. Look your going to have those memories no matter how active you are . It's those lonely times alone when all those feelings flood back. Its very much normal, better yet its more than normal. Its a long process, and a slow painful one. I'll share my experience with you. Me and my ex broke up a year ago, I was burned. Well devastated by that even 7 months later things felt a bit hazy and unreal, yet so sureal. Time really helps with healing. But even after being a year still anything can trigger the heartache to submerge. Such as a scent, sound laugh or just thinking. I'm thankful for time and what it has done for me, and I'll be even more thankful for more time, and maybe a new love! Same goes for you. Sometimes the thins we thought would be in our lives, really are the ones that need to get out of our lives. You are not alone. And being in school with such a fresh breakup I'm sure its hard sometimes to even get out there and want to do stuff. When I went back to school for my senior year people thought I was on drugs because i just sat there staring in space so num. time time time is all you need!!!! Sorry to have talked about my self a bit I just want to give you an idea of how I felt and How I feel now.
laRubiaBonita Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 well, if you both went to school there...... that too may stir up memeories. maybe volunteer off-campus. scratch that... f__ volunteer work, plenty of folks would pay you money for doing something.good...... make YOUR own memeories!
superconductor Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I don't have anything to add, I just came by to see laRubiaBonita's bikini avatar again
laRubiaBonita Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I don't have anything to add, I just came by to see laRubiaBonita's bikini avatar again word gets around! i coulda shown more, but the BF is beside me, and well with only 100X100 pixels to work with......
RecordProducer Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 7 months is not a long time at all. Man its been a year for me, and it still hurts me deeply.Broken heart by some ex ass... yuck! The worst feeling in the world! Hurts worse than strong menstrual cramps... Thank god it goes away after a year or two. Then you can't believe you ever suffered because of him. Like you wish him the best and feel sorry that everything you wished to happen to him DID happen!
laRubiaBonita Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Then you can't believe you ever suffered because of him. but if you did not suffer with the loss.... it would NOT have been worth your time in the first place.
RecordProducer Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 but if you did not suffer with the loss.... it would NOT have been worth your time in the first place. Wasn't worth my time in any case!
laRubiaBonita Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 Wasn't worth my time in any case! i would hope sooo!
Author silentcharon Posted September 10, 2006 Author Posted September 10, 2006 No, we don't both go to the same school, thank god for that. Thanks everyone, I actually feel ok now. I talked to the students association and they told me I could volunteer at the galleries, learn how to set up the galleries for show cases, exhibitions, etc. I'm sure, if we broke up right before I started school, I would be so out of it too, but i was lucky that we broke up way before I started school. On the long weekend, I was on the go, two days into school, I was on the go, and I finally got to sit down for a break on the 2nd day. That was when it hit me, I suddenly felt so alone and depressed. I'm sure there will be days like this, when I'm under more stress. I just found out my midterms next month! sigh.... i'll kick butt tho!
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