yes Posted February 7, 2002 Share Posted February 7, 2002 hey... remember that guy i cdnt get over?... well, he IMed me today, we talked for several hrs, and then i realized that every time i talk to him, i go back to rlly liking him and i cannot move on like this, so i told him to stop talking to me ... i didnt totaly explain it, i didnt wanna, it sounded more like "i dont have fun talking to u, i have work to do, go away"... he was very surprised by went away as i told him to ... i deleted him from all of my contact lists, etc ... did i do the right thing?? it hurts right now - like hell - but im thinking this way i can get over this insane obsession of mine ... i mean what was the point of being hurt every single time he'd talk to me ......... its just very hard cuz ive liked this guy for almost 3 yrs, and it rlly hurts to know he likes me a "little bit", but not NEARLY as much as i like him ... i hope not seeing/hearing/anything him for some while will help me heal and like other guys ... cuz right now , every time i like a guy, .... as soon as i talk to him, i end up feeling i like him more than the guy, etc....... just needed to vent... -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 7, 2002 Share Posted February 7, 2002 You sort of did the right thing. You didn't have to come right out and tell him you didn't want to talk to him anymore. You should have just stopped IMing him. Take him off your buddy list and block him from IMing you. It's very foolish to keep yourself in something that's going nowhere. You've also got to get your emotions together...get yourself together. It doesn't make any of the men in the world very special if you fall for every one of them after you talk to them a few times. That's nuts. It sounds really desperate. You can live without men and you need to learn how to do that. You need to cool your jets, ease that flow of chemistry you have going, and be a little more picky about the guys you fall for. If you don't, you are destined to have a broken heart your entire life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted February 7, 2002 Author Share Posted February 7, 2002 Gotcha... He wasn't "any guy" i spoke with 3 times..... ive know him for several yrs. thats why i cared... ANyhow - i'll just move on now. I understand rationally theres nothing special about him.. its just a mental block. -yes... You sort of did the right thing. You didn't have to come right out and tell him you didn't want to talk to him anymore. You should have just stopped IMing him. Take him off your buddy list and block him from IMing you. It's very foolish to keep yourself in something that's going nowhere. You've also got to get your emotions together...get yourself together. It doesn't make any of the men in the world very special if you fall for every one of them after you talk to them a few times. That's nuts. It sounds really desperate. You can live without men and you need to learn how to do that. You need to cool your jets, ease that flow of chemistry you have going, and be a little more picky about the guys you fall for. If you don't, you are destined to have a broken heart your entire life. Link to post Share on other sites
velvet Posted February 8, 2002 Share Posted February 8, 2002 The heart is a muscle, just consider its pain an exercise. It hurts but it will ease up and toughen in a good way. And yes keeping him out of your life makes it easier on you. You continue to see him, even one more time and the pain wont go away. You sort of did the right thing. You didn't have to come right out and tell him you didn't want to talk to him anymore. You should have just stopped IMing him. Take him off your buddy list and block him from IMing you. It's very foolish to keep yourself in something that's going nowhere. You've also got to get your emotions together...get yourself together. It doesn't make any of the men in the world very special if you fall for every one of them after you talk to them a few times. That's nuts. It sounds really desperate. You can live without men and you need to learn how to do that. You need to cool your jets, ease that flow of chemistry you have going, and be a little more picky about the guys you fall for. If you don't, you are destined to have a broken heart your entire life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted February 9, 2002 Author Share Posted February 9, 2002 hi everyone... for those who remember my story: .. the guy i was having trouble getting over ....... - i didn't miss him, i missed dancing! I went out tonight with some friends, and one of them is an awesome dancer... I'm soo happy! Isn't this silly? That guy was the person i normally went dancing with, so i guess i mistook my liking of salsa n stuff for liking him ... aint i weird!... in any case, i'm very happy tonight - met lots of nice dancers ... it's amazing how people look unattractive, but once they start dancing - my god, they fire up!... and i had more fun with them than when i went with him ... anyway, just updating y'all... -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 9, 2002 Share Posted February 9, 2002 Great idea!!! The next time I see an ugly girl I'll ask her to dance for me and see if her looks improve. I love to see women get "fired up." If she dances really well, I'll take her out for some salsa and stuff. I'm glad you're feeling better about things and thanks for the update. Link to post Share on other sites
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