fabulousgal Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 So its been awhile since I talked to the ex, which is fine. Better off that way. I feel so...hurt. Hurt that someone could act so friviously with another person. Hurt that my best friend went calling the ex not even a week later. Hurt that through it all, I feel my best friend didn't stay loyal to me. Hurt that all the guys I've dated since are scum, but its ok I think being alone is less drama. My job is well, I at least find interest in that. I find less and less interest in my friendships (with the exception of a few) each day. I feel like disappering or crawling into a hole for hibernation. Not depressed, I know how that feels - totally dehabilitating. This isn't that. This is just me not wanting to feel hurt anymore. I feel like my dearest friends are my parents and I've moved away from them. The only thing that peaks my interest anymore is working, I overwork myself to death to meet the demands of a demanding boss. How do you pick up and move on and let those bad things/people go? How do you find people that have the same values you do? How do you stop feeling so hurt- not just by the ex, but thats what started this. -fg
The Original Poster Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Hey, Fabgal, When you figure out the answers to all those questions, let me know. I know how you feel very well. I've been feeling all that stuff myself lately.
LaraV Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Yeah, same here. I've been feeling exactly the same way. Like I just want to go hide and not have to deal with anyone for a very long, long time.
AriaIncognito Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 Man I'm sorry to hear you're hurting again. I wish I had an answer too, but I don't. It's just hard, then I guess one day, something happens and it's not hard anymore, or not as hard. And then eventually, it's gone. But I have no idea how to make it stop. Jennifer
loveinlife Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 It's true, I agree with all you guys/girls. Who do you really trust? I mean good friends are hard to find. The ones the are true with good values and respect. So far there is only one that i really see and its this guy that I met through my cousin, whom I only know for 5 months. We have very similar personalities. On another case, I have a buddy of mine that I know for 13 years, he's good and all, but is a little cheap when it comes down to spending money, so I would treat him most of the time. There is another friend just like that. Don't know if these friends are the greatest when they don't see things with me eye to eye. Oh well, atleast my parents are still always available to back me up at all times. Im still in it on who to trust these days. So I spend a great deal of time hanging out with different groups of friends to see which one is better for the time being. Good luck with you guys/girls.
In Sync Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 here I go again with another silly suggestion but...maybe you might try making a list of all the qualities you look for or would like in a friend. And meditate or I should say plant that into your subconscious ....we attract into our lives what we have in our subconscious. Friends and relationship alike. Redesign the plan of type of people you want to surround yourself with. If you keep your eye on the prize or focus on the things you want people included you'll noticee the things you don't want will fall away and you will begin to attract the sort of people you do like. in essence don't leave it to chance who you want to be your friends but welcome to your world those who fulfill what you look for in a friend. You won't feel lonely because you are actually being choosey over who you want to associate with and willling to wait till you meet the people whose company you enjoy!
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