accckkk Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 Hi. New here and in need of advice or support. I jsut broke up with my gf of 3 months. We'd known each other 5 years and always had a spark and wanted to be together. I'd wanted to be with her for years and thought more of her than anyone. Finally the dream came true and we were an "us". But, I started noticing odd things about her, her chioces and actions. She has done a few things that really are not at all acceptable in a relationship. I've loved her like crazy for years before we even started dating, still love her now, and two days ago I broke up with her. I've caught her lying to me a few times. I still stand by the reasons I broke up with her but this is sooo hard. I still love her so much and she was hysterical, shaking and throwing up when I broke up with her. I know she loves me so much too. She said she is so sorry and she'll be a good gf for now on and won't do/say the things she's said anymore and that she knows she was wrong and taking me for granted etc. etc. But only after she realized that I may have had it. It was really hard and I still care about her soooooooo much. What makes it worse is that we work together. I just don't believe people change and quite frankly, I don't want to have anyone try change to suit me. Now I jsut don't know if this is normal to break up with someone you still love. It's such a dilema because, like I said, I stand by my reasons for breaking up, it's killing me too, but I can't trust her and don't agree at all with the choices she makes in a relationship and I'm not confident things will change. I'd wanted to be with this woman for years and was sooooo happy at first. But now I am so depressed and confused. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated. Sorry, I tried to keep this post as short as possible so it may be vague.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 How old are you and your G/F? This is going to be very relevant to the situation.
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 How old are you and your G/F? This is going to be very relevant to the situation. I am 30, she is 27.
Author accckkk Posted September 7, 2006 Author Posted September 7, 2006 Anyone have any input please?
Rooster_DAR Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 Yes, I have some input for you. Your age is good, and it sounds like she is truly regretting the lies. With that said, did she give you reason for her estranged behaviour. You also mentioned some things she's done that aren't unacceptable, can you be more specific? The lying is a good reason for you to back off from her, but only if she did not sit down and discuss the reasons for this. I guess I need you to tell me more, like how was she acting inappropriate. I don't think you did the wrong thing yet, but I need more info. Regards,
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